How old were your kids when you left them home alone?

Hi, I have a question for all the parents of older kids out there. I’m about to go back to work, 8 am-1:30 pm. My son is going into 6th grade. Last year when they did virtual learning, he could stay in an essential worker daycare. But it’s only K-5. My question is, how old were your kids when you let them stay home by themselves? He’s 11 will be 12 in December. I feel it’s too soon, but then again, I stayed home at that age. So am I being too protective? He would know not to use the stove, not to open the door, and will have a phone. I was just curious about others experiences with this big transition. Thank you all for the advice.

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My 10 year old is going into 6th grade and I let him stay home alone for short periods of time. He has a cell phone he can use if needed and if I need to get ahold of him. He will be 11 in Oct.

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My son is now 12 stayed home at 11 by himself but only for a 2 hr max.

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My soon to be 11 year old stays home alone for no more then three hours at a time but we will be expanding that time soon to max five hours. But we got her , her own cell phone and will call her if we are needing to be out longer. Just go over general rules, don’t answer the door no matter who it is, keep the door locked, no using the stove but microwave is fine stuff like that. And make sure he knows what to do in case of an emergency.

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I would let him but my soon to be 12 yr old would sleep until noon :joy:. You know your kid No cooking no answing the door and have phone access

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I’m well grown but my mom use to let me stay alone for short periods at 10 years old.

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I definitely wouldn’t have my child at that age in a daycare… I habe an almost 7th grader and he’s been staying home for bout 4-5 hours alone at a time since he was 10.

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Only you know if he’s ready Momma. By age, yeah I guess (my 11 year has started asking lol), but only you know what he’s capable of. It’s hard letting them grow up. Prayers Momma.

Honestly my son is the same age bday is Dec 9 and he will be staying home. However I will be coming home for lunch everyday to make sure everything is good.

I think it depends on the maturity of the child and the trust you have in them. The age isnt so much the issue.

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Depends on his maturity, where u live, ur neighbors, whether he has a phone or other device to communicate

Really each kid is different

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I let mine stay alone once in a while at 11. Just made sure he was awake (he wouldn’t wake up to a fire alarm), nothing on like candles or the stove. No cooking, no answering the door. I also think it depends on their maturity which you know more than anyone and where you live. We live in a small “safe” town but if we lived in the metro area I would be hesitant but that’s just me.

My older daughter was 10, at home with her 8 year old sister by themselves. We started small, and hour here and and hour there. By the time they were 12 and 10 they were all day by themselves.
Be honest with yourself. How responsible and mature do you think your child is? Do you honestly believe he will follow your instructions? If you think so, give it a try. If you have time, start small. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: good luck

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Check your local laws sometimes they have an age set. Most places i have lived in has been age 13 to be left at home.

My girls stayed home at age 11. If you can afford to set up a camera and that way you can check in on him every so often

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Mine stayed home at that age no problems but I would worry about them staying on task during school hours if they are doing virtual learning.

Mine were 12 and 10 when I started leaving them alone, and then it was just to do grocery shopping. They had a choice to go with me or stay home.

I am probably way to over protective but the internet is full of creeps!!! and a bunch of you are stating your kids age and that you leave them alone :flushed::flushed::flushed:. Its not hard for people to find out your personal info. Not a big fan of this thread. Just me though.

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Each kid is different. It totally depends on how level of maturity

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Depending on the maturity of the child, he can stay home. Just leave him like sandwiches in the fridge and little snacks where he doesn’t have to make anything and he should be fine. I loved staying home by myself when I was around 11. It was relaxing I would watch tv do my homework and chill at home.

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