How should I deal with my toxic mother?

Does anyone else have a toxic mother? My mother makes sneaky remarks at my sisters and me to make us feel bad about ourselves. ESPECIALLY out bodies, She gave us coats as gifts with our names on it. Things were going fine until we were all getting ready to leave. She asked, ‘’are you even gonna fit your coat? I get scared to give you clothes that you won’t fit them. If you don’t fit if, LOSE WEIGHT!! ’m Thanks, mom. Merry Christmas to you too! I love my mom, but sometimes I just wanna slap her because of the things she says. I hope I won’t be like this when I’m her age.

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I’m petty af, i would have handed it back to her! And told her thanks and no thanks bc i wouldn’t want to be around her or want her around my kids

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I cut people off like that.

“Moms”… sorry about that - totally not normal, helpful or loving :cry:

If she really mean it that what she said…just tell what she had issues and see for herself see how she must be feel when she did this to you…try sit down and have talk to her?..I use to had toxic relationships with my mom also but we did well now than before

Sounds like your mom grew up in the 50’s

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Cut her off. I wouldn’t be around toxic “family.” Mom or not.

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Cut ties with those who treat you poorly. I detached myself from my parents and the remarks and comments just got worse. Sometimes you need to cut ties with family even if it’s hard. You’ll be happier in the long run!

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My dad is toxic. I cut him out long ago for degrading comments.

Go buy her clothes that are too small lol

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My mom used to give me food and tell me how pretty I’d be if I lost weight while I was eating it. That’s just the food thing. She can reduce me to a gibbering mess within 5 minutes no matter what.

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Just limit exposure and be absolutely the opposite of her. My mom told my brother and I once that we were such ugly children.

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I stopped caring about what people said decades ago…

Cut her off !!! You live your life as you feel not how your expected !!! And tell her to make sure she gets the correct size next time!!!

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I set boundaries thank goodness my mom lives 20 miles away n another town but b/c believe family is important and for my boys sake I draw lines limit physical contact ignore her snide comments never take what she says to heart let her talk etc plus if I don’t she will call cps n make our lives he’ll again

My moms exactly like this. She’s really jealous of her daughters. It’s gone on since I was really little. We aren’t close and I barely talk to her. Drop her. And don’t let anything she says effect you because it’s not true.

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I cut my egg donor off, wasn’t easy, but it was worth it for my sanity and mental health.

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Tell her it runs in the family and you have your genes from her, difference is, you are comfortable in your skin and she isn’t, that is why she is being so rude, and insecure. If you don’t like the jacket give it away. I feel you. I get the same statements a lot too.

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Exactly time to disinvite her you both will be better .I have a sister like that I dont dear as l with her at all my life is better. Try it

Talk to her. Explain that her comment was hurtful and you don’t appreciate being spoken to like that.