How should I handle this situation with my 9 year old?

My 9 year old daughter was caught some weeks back trying to look up inappropriate games and internet topics. In response she gets in trouble and I give her the water down version of “The Talk”. Tonight I see if she’s sleep and she’s watching videos on YouTube! What should I do?

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She’s curious, she’s 9. Try answering her questions and not getting angry at her. A “watered down version” isn’t going to satisfy her, especially with the internet at her fingertips. If she got in trouble she feels she definitely can’t go to you. Explain she can trust and come to you, and that the internet is not a good resource due to exaggeration

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Limit her internet and game time. Only allow her on it when you can monitor her. In my opinion 9 is way too young for that. She should still be watching unicorns. Just let her know it’s inappropriate.

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Take all electronics out

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9 years old is far too young for that.

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9 is too young for that and you should probably look into why she has become so curious…

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I monitor everything. Take all electronics. But she’s gonna be curious. Meet curiosity with answers and not punishments.

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It’s completely normal, please don’t tell her it’s inappropriate it will just make her grow up thinking those type of things aren’t normal.

Calmly talk to her and answer any questions she may have.
Kids are exposed to all kinds of things now a days, just try and monitor the best you can, answer her questions and remain calm.

I don’t see how taking away electronics will help, she’ll find a way to look at things with or without electronics. All you can really do is monitor, and put time locks on the devices so after a certain time it locks the device. I believe it’s called screen time monitoring, you should be able to see how much time spent on which app and on the device. It will give you options to lock certain apps and things as well.

But at the end of the day; it really is your choice what to do as you know your daughter best and what would or wouldn’t work.

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I think a good way to handle electronics is that you own them , phn , tablet ect and yes she can use them and even keep her info and contacts in them but they are yours and she must respect all rules or lose the privilege of using your stuff . Make sure you can see everything she does and set it up to block this stuff and notify you on your phn if she try’s to go on sites not approved. She has to wait till she is older to actually own her own electronics.

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First off, you shouldn’t punish her for being curious. Instead, be honest with her and whatever she wants to ask about. Second off, how is 9 too young? I bet her friends all do the same thing. In elementary school the girls got a very watered down “talk” about periods and stuff in fourth grade. The bigger “talk” at school was sixth grade. I know I was curious about things at that age but you see and hear it all around you. Friends, movies, internet, etc… Punishing her might make her want to do it more. If you catch her maybe take the electronic away but also ask what she was looking up and why. :sparkling_heart::sparkling_heart::sparkling_heart:

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Sit down and talk to her …

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Only allow video games etc. in the family room where you can supervise . Also , limit her to 30 minutes a day . The rest of her time should be spent on school , homework , chores and reading plus any extra curricular activities. Consequently , she won’t have time for those video games .

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We have YouTube blocked on our actual internet and if the kids need it for something then they have to go through us to do it on our devices

Sit down and talk to her 9 isn’t to young, she may have heard something from school or her friends or just curious and as her parent it needs to come from u not anywhere else handle the situation calmly bc she feels like she can’t trust you which will lead her in hiding more and more for you

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We installed the ScreenTime app on my sons phone for this reason. You can block apps and put age restrictions on YouTube.

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Take electronics away before bed. Give her the real talk and ask questions and let her ask questions. There is no telling what her friends are telling her and some it probably isn’t true. Keep your cool during conversation and let her know it’s a serious conversation and an adult subject.

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What is she watching

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I cant believe people are saying 9 is too young… when do you find that providing the correct educational information is necessary?? Just curious! It was needed when I was 9 years old and that was 22 years ago. The year now is 2021. Seriously curious!!

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Why does a 9 year old ha w free range of electronics?
No electronics . This is the second time.

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Everyone sitting here saying 9 is too young it’s most definitely NOT. But they’re right. That little girl was me :woman_shrugging:t2: my mom shamed and took all electronics away. Guess who still found a way? Guess who felt they had to be Even more sneaky & it literally ruined my moms and I relationship… inform please, don’t shame… don’t make her feel like it’s wrong.

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