How should I handle this situation with my best friend?

I have a kind of weird question. I have been friends with my best friend for about ten years. We met in middle school and have been glued to each other ever since. Last night, she told me something very odd, and I don’t know how to feel about it. She told me she had a sex dream about my husband. I know it is just a dream, but at the same time, now I am wondering if she is having these real thoughts and feelings for my husband. This may seem silly to everyone else, but I have a real fear now. Am I overreacting?

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I would feel very unsettled with her dream absolutely but she cant control her dreams and I would 100% respect her for telling you. Of course I’m jealous but I wouldn’t act upon it unless you actually seen her looking at him differently or found out it’s more then just a dream.

Trust. Just breathe and let it go. If she’s your best friend y’all should be able to talk and over come anything. A woman always needs her best friend as well as her husband. Don’t read so much into it.

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Any interest in becoming a trouple?

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The fact that she was honest with you is a good sign, I have had many sex dreams but I’m not attracted to those people and would never act on it

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First of all if she cared about your feelings she would have taken it to someone else or just kept it to herself… I would be horrified or suspicious of the person but maybe that’s just me.

Girl, I’ve had sex dreams about the most random people. People I had absolutely no interest in irl. Sometimes a dream is just a dream and has nothing to do with actual feelings. She told you about it, which to me means it’s pretty safe to think she isnt intending anything shady.

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How did she react after she told you?? If she was like “ewww never” I wouldn’t be too concerned. If you trust her trust her, don’t think too much of it

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It took guts to tell you. That a friend. I wouldn’t read much into.

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The fact she told you speaks volumes. We don’t control our dreams and can’t control who appears. Just because it was a sex dream doesn’t mean anything honestly. She could just appreciate certain qualities in your husband and that’s why he was the one in the dream. :woman_shrugging:t2: I wouldn’t be too bothered since she was honest.

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That’s a hard one… I’ve had sex dreams about people I absolutely have zero attraction to… but its def a confession that would your mind wander a little…? Listen to your gut. It does not lie.

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Shoot, my friends have done this at one point. Only thing that matters is that they’re honest about it and don’t act on it.

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I’ve had dreams like that about people I can’t even stand😫 If I was the friend I probably would have kept that to myself regardless because I wouldn’t want to make things awkward.

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Over reacting. Let it go. We all have weird dreams.

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For you to even ask this question, something is off. IF you didn’t think anything of it you would have brushed it off but you didn’t.
Something is wrong.

Honey I have had plenty of sex dreams and with ones I would have NEVER thought sexy, attractive or what have you. It’s a dream…I would Google sex dreams.

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No. You need to lay a barrier here. Flat out tell her what she said made you uncomfortable and was inappropriate and makes you question having her around him.

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Oh hell no ! Back the fk up !

Ask her, she is ya mate of 10 years

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Yes you are. Sex dreams mean nothing. I once had a sex dream about Ronald McDonald (actually it was more a nightmare since I’m terrified of clowns but that’s beside the point) does it mean i want to bone the big foot ginger? No. No it does not. It means our mind are weird sometimes and our dreams are even weirder.

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