How should I handle this situation with my mother in law?

To the mamas who have problems with their in-laws, what’s your opinion? So quick background, I don’t get along with my MIL and stopped going to family functions about two years ago because of how she would ignore my son and her only interactions with him would be to tell him to “quit being a baby” “I don’t want nothing to do with him. All he does is cry”(he was a newborn-a year at this time). My husband is completely okay with my son and me not going to family functions of his anymore. Anyways, we’re pregnant with our second and had a gender reveal party. I told my husband that he is more than welcome to invite his mom because I understand that’s still his mom & siblings. He didn’t want to, but I insisted because he wasn’t going to have anyone there from his side of his friends or family. I told him that I want him to have his family support and love. So he did. We had the party at my parent’s house & his mom and siblings were incredibly rude to my parents and brother when they greeted them. They refused to shake my family’s hands and eat any of the food. Then at the end of the party, his mom has this loud meltdown where she starts crying in front of everyone so loud, like minutes after we had the gender reveal because my husband had our son go say hi to her. I ignored her as well as all my friends and family. I get on FB that night, and I see she’s saying horrible things about my family and me, like how we don’t care about, and we were so heartless. She was calling me a spoiled bitch, and this and that. I showed my husband, and he said he would talk to her and still hasn’t. It’s been three weeks. What would you do?

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Your husband needs to put her in her place

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My mother in law is sweet glad I dont have to deal with that

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Just leave her out as much as you can. Especially if your hubby doesnt want to invite her. Distance yourself as much as you can.

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I would make my man handle his mother and defend my honor. Shittt your his wife!!! Your mil sounds like a narcissist who doesn’t deserve the love of your kids

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Lol my own mil wont even ask how the pregnancy is going. She says a phone works both ways

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Cut all ties with them,and tell your husband he needs to stand up for you

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He definitely needs to handle her. That’s not right of her to be like that towards you and your child. She sounds like a hateful, old bitch. I would definitely delete her out of mine and my child’s life. She is toxic.

Cut the ties… it is likely not going to get any better and your children don’t deserve that. Spoken from experience!

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You need a meeting with her ? What the h&&&

You keep doing what you are. Your husband needs to be the one to step up for y’all or tell them adios.

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Put her in her place and cut ties. The end.

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Punch her out. And then never speak to her again she sounds like a dramatic bitch.

Let it go. She doesn’t pay your bills or lick your twat.

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You’re always gonna be the villain in someone’s story
Fuck em
Cut em out & don’t reach out again

I think you were sweet to try to include them after everything, that says a lot about your character. And what they did shows theirs. Sometimes its ok to feel bad to cut people off…this is not one of those times. He shouldve said something, especially after he said he would, but what can you do about it ya know? No need to add to the mess by being mad at him for it. But you have every right to not do anything with them or for them ever again.

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Your husband needs to put her in her place. I would completely cut her off and that includes with the new baby once he/she gets here.

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A man that let’s anyone disrespect his family like that isn’t a real man. When you become married THAT family is the one that is prioritized. All family is important but if they can’t love your children they don’t love you.

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Wipe your hands, you tried twice. You know shes not gonna change so just dont involve her. Next time dont insist, let it be. It is what it is

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I would tell her she’s never welcome near myself or my children again, nor is she welcome near my home or any of my families homes.

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