How should I tell my mom that I am pregnant?

My partner and I just found out I’m pregnant. I’m going to be 20 with my first child. My mom is very strict and I really don’t think she will be happy. I have an apartment with my partner. I want to wait until I’m a little further along to tell her, but how should I go about telling her?

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I was 19 … I took her out to lunch on Mother’s Day and told her lol … we cried for awhile but she loves her more than anything

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Don’t be afraid to tell her. You’re an adult and have your own apartment. When you tell her be so happy and confident about it that nobody can bring you down! A baby is an extreme blessing😬 going about telling her is up to you… I found it easier to tell multiple people in one sitting than all individual.

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Ur a adult and living on your own there is no reason she shouldn’t be happy unless she feels u will be unfit. Are u looking for cute ideas or just a idea so she eont be mad

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I would try to make it a positive announcement. If she makes it negative than that’s on her

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Approach it as a thing of joy if you act nervous and timmid and like it’s bad news then that’s how it will be received. Get her a box with a onsie thst says something about grandma. Make it a happy surprise

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Just tell her your pregnant there isnt much she can really say your an adult an you have your own place it’s not like you are living in her house

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Make sure to say it with excitement… like “guess what… You’re gonna be a grandma… And my baby is gonna have the best grandma in the whole world”… it’ll make her feel good instead of “mom I’m sorry but I’m pregnant” where the negativity will open up a conversation for her to criticize you.

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Announce/present the fact she’s going to have a grandchild in a fun way to her. Act like she is supposed to be happy because she should be. :wink:

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Just tell her. This is literally the easiest part of the rest of your life now

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You got your apartment you have your boyfriend I’m thinking you got it good right and I’m happy for you congrats ? But now at this point if your mom is strict that’s not something for you to worried about . She can only be upset for so long and get over it you a grown girl now and what else can you do but to tell her weather she gets mad or not .

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If you are excited then I would tell her with excitement.

  • we always care about how our mothers will feel, at any age. We never want to feel like we disappointed our mommas. So even tho you are an adult and out on your own, I understand how you feel.
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When you’re ready, tell her. She will likely notice your bloomin’ belly so I wouldn’t wait until the delivery date…

Wear a skin tight shirt around her when you start showing …and she’ll ask “Are you pregnant?” Then you reply “Well since you asked …yeah”

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I would wait until you were 3 months along to make sure things were going well, to tell anyone. But your mom will be so happy. She may be upset as you aren’t married but so what

Just tell her when you plan to. You can’t control her reaction and you’re not responsible for how she reacts. But you’re also 20 so she can’t control your decisions.

Um your 20 and live with your partner… really ? Just be straight up and tell her you’re expecting . I’d wait until after 12 weeks .

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I told my mom with all my 4 kids lol…be upfornt with her after you will feel better instead bottle up in

I got pregnant with my first at 20 and announced to my mom on Mother’s Day saying she was going to be a grandma. I was also married and living on our own but she was very excited. I’m sure your mom will be too.

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Just rip the band-aid off and tell her. I was 21 when I got pregnant with my first child. She may be upset at first, most parents are, but she’ll get over it.

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