How would you handle your mom announcing your pregnancy before you did?

She’s straight up a narcissist. Nothing will fix that about her, I’d just keep yourself as distant from her as you can forever honestly.

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I’d be livid, and I’d also not tell her anything else until I made an “official” announcement to the rest of the family, like if it’s a boy or a girl, she’d find out when everyone else did at the gender reveal or whatever f*** her she blatantly disrespected you and your wishes I’d be so done I hope everything works out for you and your family, but seriously don’t tell her anything else you don’t want blabbed :heart:

I would be furious. She’s a horrible person to take this away from you TWICE. Stand your ground. Never tell her ypur personal business again and let her find out all your good things when everyone else does.

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Simple she is the absolute last person to know anything. She can’t blurt out what she doesn’t know. It’s called and info diet. I highly suggest puting her on one immediately.

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As someone who lost their mom to cancer. Cherish ever moment

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She had a second before informing your family where she thought that telling them is worth fighting with you about. That is wrong, no matter what y’all’s relationship is. Don’t make yourself small for her. She may have raised you but she is NOT by any means entitled to tell everyone your business. And she should have never brought your hormones into it. She lacked defense and used your weakness to compensate. It’s gross and equally as bad.

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Frankly I think you are behaving childish, if it matters to you so much that you announce the pregnancy to the family don’t tell anyone until the announcement you have planned is ready, especially since your mother ruined the “moment” for you before. But to be mad about a parent excited to be a grandparent is very childish, you really need to at least write a long letter telling her how her saying something after you asked her not to hurt you, it was not intentional.

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I’d quit telling her in the future. Let her find out news with everyone else if she doesn’t want to respect your wishes.

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Not the same situation but my best friend posted on facebook that we were having a boy before I could even get out of the ultrasound. I was furious, I called her and cried yelling at her. Its no ones place to share any kind of news like that

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Sounds like ur mom needs a reality check wow! I would not reach out to her at all… if she wants a place in ur babies life she needs to apologise. Id also never trust again. If u have another babe make sure shes last to know! Congrats good luck!

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Get through this she got excided told something. That wasnt to be told.she is your mother and your babies grandma you will need her and so will this baby.dont do something you will regret.

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Next time don’t tell your mom anything, she can find out the same way as everyone else

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Dont tell her anything. Hell at that point I wouldn’t tell how far along i was or when the baby is born. Just send out and a birth announcement

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I would tell her because of this being the SECOND time she has done this. She is no longer getting special news until after everyone else gets it as well. I wouldn’t be telling her squat anymore. She clearly doesnt care.

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i wouldnt b happy but i wouldnt have told any1 but the fact u asked them no to tell any 1 they broke ur trust

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You shouldn’t have told her to begin with because if she did it before, she’ll do it again. Her being the grandmother, or your mother, gives her no right to that knowledge and you should have known better because no offense but she sounds like a blabber mouth anyway. Yeah I’d be pissed, and probably not talk to her for a while, because she can’t respect your wishes. Maybe being ignored and not getting to know anything new will teach her to keep her mouth shut if she wants to be included.

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I would have made up any other excuse for not attending the funeral :woman_shrugging:t2:. I kept my last pregnancy from everyone including my husband the whole 1st trimester because I wasn’t sure baby would make it and plus my husband was studying for his citizenship interview so I didn’t want to worry him. There were times I had to lie to him or if I couldn’t lift something, I’d make him do it; so there were times I know he was annoyed by me :joy: but he understood everything once I gave him the news.

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She can be the last to get special news or news at all. I wouldn’t tell her anything.

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If she told everyone the other time that there should it made you not to say to her on your future ones until you already had your dr apt n sono

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How’s that saying go… “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” Moving forward, you know she cannot be trusted, so don’t tell your Mom ANYTHING you don’t want your family to know.

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