I agreed to have three somes even though I don't want too: What should I do?

I feel so lost. My husband treats me badly. My husband and I have been together since 2012, I have told him how I feel about being in threesomes (it makes me uncomfortable), he always tries to initiate them no matter what I say. I just don’t know what to do anymore; I can’t talk to anyone about it because the whole reason we got into this is that I finally agreed. But every time we go anywhere, it feels like he is pimping me to his friends. We just adopted our baby, and I don’t want everyone to think that was the only reason j stayed with him. He doesn’t care; he doesn’t see he is doing anything wrong. I feel so stuck and have no one to talk to. I’m so lost. I know I should leave, but I don’t want to make my daughter’s life harder than it needs to be, I also have nothing to offer my daughter if I do leave. I’m screwed, and I know it, just pray for me, please. Any advice is welcomed. I just feel so helpless. I’m not trying to throw a pity party; I am really at a loss.

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Leave his sorry ass. The end.

This is unacceptable to not think of your wishes first and put you in situations that make you uncomfortable. If he can’t see this then it’s time to move on and make a better life without the toxic relationship. Best of luck!!

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Get out. It won’t make it better.

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Your husband obviously has 0 respect you, dont let anyone make you feel like you have to do something your not comfortable with, leave him!

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He needs to have more respect for you. And you need to demand the respect

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It wont be making your daughter’s life harder…but staying will. Nobody deserves to be treated badly. From what it seems is that its been happening a while now. It will not change. Don’t show her that this is the way it should be. Get out of there !

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Leave, this isn’t right, how do you know he won’t want to pimp your daughter. She needs to know that this isn’t how a man treats a woman. Go for counseling.

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Get a life plan together. Go back to school, get a good job, make a timeline and stick to it. You need to get yourself and your daughter the hell up out of there

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Can you stay with family? This situation will be more damaging for your daughter, most likely, than you struggling on your own. You both deserve better. I’m so sorry you’re going through this :disappointed_relieved:

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What kind of example are you setting for your daughter?

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You should think about leaving. He seems like a total douche.

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Is it with other women or men?
Other women he is a pervert.
Other men, he is a closet gay.
Either way RUN!

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Find urself a job and get ur life in order then leave

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Think of your daughter…would you ever be ok with a man making her do something that she didn’t want to do? Respect yourself bc you deserve it, but also respect yourself bc you have a daughter that is watching you. If you don’t leave now, your daughter will grow up thinking it’s normal and ok to be treated that way by a man. A threesome is cheating…and I hope he’s not trying to tell you that it’s not. Want more for yourself! :heart:

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Your husband has no respect for you clearly. Have you told him it makes you uncomfortable? You are better off living with family if you can, get a job if you don’t already have one and focus on you and your daughter. You should never do something that makes you uncomfortable to satisfy his fantasy.

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I’m confused as to why you’d tell him yes you’d have threesomes, but then have them and not want them. It’s as simple as saying NO and not doing it…

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This is freaking terrible. Leave ASAP.

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Should’ve never agreed to it if you didn’t want to. Gotta be firm with what you do & don’t want.

From now on, I will not read past the first that says “my husband treats me badly”. Cause that’s as far as that should go anyways

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