I am 18-years-old, pregnant and contemplating adoption: Advice?

I just turned 18, I’m 5 months pregnant. I recently moved in with my boyfriend and he’s been very awful to me. He wasn’t always like this either, which is weird. I’m scared it’s always going to be like this, and I don’t want to bring a baby into a single parent household or a toxic one. I’ve already told people I’m expecting but I’ve been thinking about adoption… what should I do… I feel awful…

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Original poster: please message me. I was your age when I placed my son for adoption.

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Adoption wouldn’t be the worst thing. :heart:

You can message me anytime poster, I placed my twins in adoption a few years back.

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The main thing is making sure your child is in a safe and happy environment. But being a single parent isn’t horrible either, that is if you think you can support your child. Just take time and think about it. Just make sure you are in a safe environment also.

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I’m happy for your decision to keep the baby :heart: and if it doesn’t work for you to raise it yourself then adoption or signing rights over to a loved one isn’t a bad idea either :heart: you could always leave the babydaddy and do your own thing and be a bomb ass mom and still give the baby the life you want to. And worry about a relationship later? No judgment or hate here, I started off a single mom.

Your boyfriend would have to agree and sign away rights as well. I’ve seen men refuse just to further victimize the mother of the baby.

Go back home to your parents. If you feel adoption is right and he’s not a safe parent do it. Just say you don’t know who the father is.

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Find you a better man

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You can always message me, I didnt give mine up for adoption but I thought about it a good bit when I was 17. :heart: good luck sweetheart! Adoption is wonderful :heartpulse:

First get out of the relationship. Then find a plan parenthood and talk about your Options

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If you havent already give your life to god he can help you best wishes

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Consider adoption of you must but leave that boyfriend. Leave him now. You may reconsider your feelings once you leave him.

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Leave the boyfriend and keep your baby x

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I’m single parent to my baby when I was 16/17 teenger mother myself also…just try clear mind first and think clearly what you really wants to cause there no turned back when putting adoption in tho just sayin.

You need to go somewhere safe first. That kind of change in behaviour is concerning. Go to family and really think about it lovely zx

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Nothing wrong with being a single mama.

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Call an adoption agency and set up an appointment to just sit and talk.

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Its ok to be scared, but once u start feeling the movement and u hold her u will love it, you just have to work, go back home get rid of the bf. U dont need him if hes not good to u.

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Get out. He will not change. I wish I had adopted out my son.

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