I am 36 weeks pregnant and left an emotionally abusive relationship: Advice?

Single moms…how do you do it? I am 36 weeks pregnant, and my husband and I have decided to split up. The verbal and emotional abuse is too much for me to bear. I have recently found out that there has been infidelity, too, during my entire pregnancy. I would have left already, but I don’t have any family support. I don’t have anywhere to go to stay. I have three children, and I’m going to be giving birth in a few weeks. He is and has been the breadwinner the five years that we’ve been together. Honestly, I’m scared to death of doing it alone, but at this point, it would be extremely unhealthy for the kids if I stayed in this cycle. Has anyone experienced something similar? If so, do you have any advice?

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Sometimes I wish we could talk on a personal level with the people who ask for advice

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The best bet is too leave. It’s scary, it’s hard but you will be much happier in the end. And yes I have been thru it.

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Reach out to a church or find a local YMCA they have places for women and their children to go to escape abusive relationships

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Right… all I can say is it all worth it to see your child grow… it will be hard and tiring… but please know your not alone… talk to ppl

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Stay strong sweet mama.

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I had two children under 6, was living in same situation but not pregnant, was with him for 9 years and a teen mom, I didn’t have my high school diploma or even a job, I stayed home mostly because he didn’t want me to work and was extremely controlling and verbally abusive here is what I did,

I woke up one morning and decided I’m worth more than this and my children deserve better I worked full time while going to school got my high school and then went on to get a college degree. I got an amazing job, and meet the love of my life (husband).

PUT your ducks in a row before its to late, and you cause you and your children more emotional damage

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Do you have proof he cheated? If so file for divorce and he’ll have to pay alimony and child support

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Join the group single moms alliance. You get a lot of support from women in that group :two_hearts:

There is alot of programs that will help you! It is hard being a single mom but it’s so worth it seeing your kids happy and healthy. And you need to take care of yourself too!

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It is the most Terrifying, scaryer than shit, most amazing thi g you will ever do for you and your kids. It will be hard there will be nights you cry yourself to sleep and there will be days you will be so happy and ask yourself why you didnt do it sooner. Time will pass and it will get easier and soon you wont even remember all the nights you cried. It is super hard and totally worth it

:pray:t2::pray:t2::pray:t2: God will provide ~ he knows your heart … he hears our prayers ~ this too shall pass … reach out to your minister and church family

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Did my whole pregnancy single with a 2 yr old it was so hard but no where near as hard and emotionally exhausting as being with someone who was emotionally abusive and put me down all the time.
It actually feels so empowering doing it on ya own even on the tough days.
I feed my kids, I mow my lawns, i pay my bills , I own every thing in my home and I have a veggie patch :heart_eyes:.

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Document everything u can by date & time & events
It’s so important!!

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Sometimes a woman’s shelter is better than going to a family members house anyway

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I’m doing this now I’m a mom of 9 no job no money no family no help but I finally made him leave I start work 2mrow… the only thing is ur about to give birth it will b almost impassable to get a job rite now … it going to b hard but u can do it anything is possible

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Leave it only gets worse.you do not have any friends ,to stay with?.I feel for you and your children.PRAY . I will too.

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It’s hard…but better at the same time. Take the advice from these people and do it.

I’ve been where you are. It took 5 1/2 years of verbal, mental and emotional abuse but I left my ex after he raped me. and I moved me and my 3 kids to Florida to stay with my mom. I’m telling you now it’s not easy but it does get easier. It took me 2 years to finally get on my feet and be able to depend on myself for my kids. It’s been 8 years since I left him. Due to other circumstances I had his rights terminated. I am now with a great man and he adopted my other 3 kids and we have 1 together. It’s hard to get out of a relationship like that. But you will pull through. Talk to your local churches and most places have a community outreach program. Along with income based housing. I’m not sure where you are located but you can look up that info. Also they may have a program to help women that are leaving abusive relationships. You can do this. Feel free to message me if you would like more help.

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What are the ages of the other kids?
Sometimes making it through these situations is as simple as reaching out like you’re doing.
You would be surprised at how many other females are in this same position and all it takes is finding one person who can relate.
You may find someone in this same position that is looking for an escape… and willing to collaborate.

DO WHAT SCARES YOU MOST AND THAT IS HOW YOU WILL SUCCEED

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