I’ve been single for a few months now. I work non stop, and my child is ten months old. I made the decision for myself that I didn’t want significant others around my child too much until they are significant, but I also feel like they need to see me in the role of mom. So any dating tips for a new mom who is also new to being single? And a workaholic lol. How do I be the perfect employee, the perfect mom, and have a social life? Send help!
No man around until you are seeing progress etc. Never allow them near you dont want a revolving door. Let them know you’re a mommy etc but in time they would meet the child
Dont want your baby confused
Family always comes first.
U should be with a man at LEAST a couple months before letting them into ur childs life. There’s nothing a man needs to “see” when ur in mommy mode that is worth risking ur kids. If a man isn’t ok with not meeting ur child for awhile, then he definitely wasn’t the man u need long term
My husband I not my kids bio dad, when I first started dating him I told him upfront I have 2 kids. I told him their age and told him it would be awhile before he got to meet them. My parents would watch the kids while I went out with him. I usually didn’t go till they were already asleep. When the kids bio dad would have them I would stay at his place or him at mine. It took a few months before I let him meet the kids. At first we would just go meet him someplace like the arcade, movies, and we went to a family fun place. We didn’t show affection towards each other till I knew him and the kids would get along well. Then a few weeks of that I let him come over or we would go to his family and visit just so every one could get to know each other. We didn’t move in together for almost 2 years after meeting.
I would worry less about dating right now, and more on building a future for you and your child. Once you have that wrapped up nicely everything else will fall into place.
With my first born I stayed single until she was 5, when I met my husband I made him wait for 6 months of us being together to meet her because my top priority is providing a stable environment for my children. My advise is dont rush it, the right guy will wait until you are ready to introduce them, and then they will see your parenting at that point.
Don’t bring men around your child until you are exclusive and planning a future.
You can’t be perfect in all three. I suggest striving to be the best mom you can, the best employee you can be while prioritizing your role as mom, and if there’s anything left over for socializing after that then worry about being the best you can at that after priority 1 - being the best mom you can be.
My husband met my daughter after 3 weeks. There is no time limit. You’ll feel it when it’s right, but trust your intuition. Don’t try to see things that aren’t there just because you want to see them.
Wait. Your baby is so young. Enjoy your time with baby and when the right person comes around you’ll know. 3 months is not that long a time.
It’s when YOU feel like it’s the right time. I got little sleep, but when my daughter was younger before I met my husband I definitely set time aside for dating and friends!
Seems like you already are providing a great life for yourself and your daughter, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to get social again. I can’t tell you how failed tinder dates I went on before I found my husband . All worth it
Well for starters there’s no such thing as the “perfect mom” and keeping your social life away from your child is my best advice
I met my husband when my son was a year and we didn’t start dating till he was 18m. When you know you know. He’s not going to want to rush anything and you won’t have to explain your job and baby comes first he will KNOW and want the best for your baby too.
Worry about your child and you! You don’t need any man right now. That should be the furthest thing you even think you have to have is a man
My personal rule is not to introduce anyone to my kids until we’ve been involved for at least 6 months. I keep my dating life and my mom life separate. That’s not to say I hide my kids, it’s right in my dating profile that I have kids and they come first. But I can’t justify letting my kids meet somebody, and then finding out that I don’t like a certain quality about a suitor, or they don’t like a certain quality about me. I don’t want my kids to see a revolving door. My ex has a similar rule. Although with his last girlfriend we broke it because I needed him to take one of our kids while I I took the other to the ER and it was the middle of the night and his gf was staying over. But yeah, Im definitely not introducing any new partners until I know for sure they’re going to be a part of my life.
This is disgusting. You have your priorities all wrong. You shouldn’t even be thinking about dating right now. You get no social life right now and that is FINE. You dont want to date men back to back just because you want the D. Come on now. Your baby is 10 months old. Every minute out of work should be on her, not on a man. Youve been broken up for a couple of months! Can you at least wait a year so you can get your shit together? Im sure there are things that needs to be worked on especially when you have a baby daddy. Court, child support, visitation, etc etc. Get that stuff done first.
When you are truly ready for dating at least wait a year for the guy to meet your kid. You seriously have to make sure hes the one before you introduce guy after guy to your kid.
Dating is not a requirement for a social life…
If you want to be the perfect employee just have a good work ethic
Want to be a perfect mom?
Put your child and carer before dick
You’re thinking too far ahead mama. Take it day by day. When it comes you will know what to do❤️
First of all you need to ditch that word “PERFECT” it doesn’t exist i the real world. All you can do is be the best you can be every day. Somedays that best may be better then others but that doesnt make it any less. If you have been with someone for a decent amount of time and can picture a life with that person then introduce them dont rush to have them meet. Let the other person know you are a mom and what that means to you but you don’t need to introduce them until it becomes a true “significant” person in your life.