I am not a Mom obviously but have been in a mentally abusive marraige for the past 7 months we have a babygirl together who is everything to me I don’t want to get a divorce because I don’t want my babygirl to grow up without me being around I mean I’ll have visitation but that’s not like having your daughter grow up under the same roof her family is way too involved in our lives instead she makes them so every minute detail of our existence is taken back to her family and then they fill her head with a lot of unnecessary things which in turn I am blamed for she says I’m not a good husband and don’t provide for her and our babygirl which is a lie because she does not work I manage the household with my paycheck but it never seems to be enough I agree we may have it a little tough towards the end of each month but the basics are always never compromised she took my babygirl away from me made an entry in the police station and has been with her family since I have not seen my babygirl for 3 weeks now she just closed 4 months I went to the cops but since she is still so small she will not be seprated from her mother I tried to reconcile but she is adamant about me not being a proper husband and now even says I’m a bad father I can’t understand why because I am the one taking care of everything because she does not work she can’t do everything for our babygirl on her own appearance, but that too is a lie because I have helped her all along and even cook for her somtimes I clean the house and help with our babygirl too what more can I do to be a better husband and father?? This is a very short summary of all the mental abuse most of it not captured here, but any advice is really appreciated thank you and God bless you
Staying together for the sake of the kids is the worst thing for the kids. Plus if they stick around they’ll grow up thinking they should be treated, or treating people the same way. If you want to do something good for the baby, leave.
Sometimes people can just be this way. Even if you’re not doing anything wrong. To me it sounds like you’ve done everything you can do to be a good husband and sometimes that’s not good enough to some people. And that’s okay. At this point just try to be the best father, even if your marriage isn’t working out. The kids should always come first!
Go see a lawyer Dad, you have rights too! Start a paper trail of every time you try to make attempts to see your child, if you give her any money or anything keep receipts. Sounds like you have a fight on your hands. Good luck, and stay strong, but be smart about it all and see a lawyer.
Are you crazy? You would rather your child grow up in a dysfunctional home then one with sanity? Try reevaluating your priorities lady
Dads have rights, no doubt about that. Exercise those rights. Good luck and so sorry she’s like this. the child is the one who will suffer the most.
You can go to a lawyer and get custody sorted with visitation and child support, along with a divorce started. This is disgusting. I HATE parents using their children as pawns. Absolutely HATE it!!! The baby may not be separated for weeks at a time, but you would certainly get visitation.
Divorcing nowadays doesnot mean your child will be without you. You can fight for her, and you should. But you should not be miserable just because you think you wont be allowed in her life if you divorce her mom. Your daughter should not see her abusing you either. I know itll be hard, but i think you’re strong enough to do it. I wish you the absolute best of luck!!
How are you not a mom yet say you share a child together
Take it to court! Establish actual paternity that’s your baby too fight for her!
I would contact a lawyer and go to court for rights. Staying together for the kids is not the answer. It will hurt her more in the long run if you do.
I would go to a lawyer, seek visitation and when older try to get custody. Some people are just like that and honestly you want to raise your daughter knowing that mental abuse is not a form of love.
Try counseling if that dont work not sure what but sounds to me that youre trying to be a good Dad and Hubby take it to court make sure child is really yours and go from there good luck kiddo
You have rights. You will be ok. Seek resources. Good luck to you. Document everything as well.
Why did she go to the police station?
What’s so good about sometimes cleaning the house and helping with the baby? Thats your job, right?
Definitely go to court. Now if your wife is still breastfeeding the baby you may not get overnights with her.
It definitely sounds like a toxic marriage, and for the sake of your daughter it’s better for you both to not be together.
If she doesn’t work she needs to be cleaning that house!! I stay at home with my daughter and don’t ask my husband to do any cleaning except outside stuff!! She sounds very selfish and like she wants to be spoiled!! Like you don’t make enough money if you make enough to support your family and give them everything they need everything else is want!!
Staying in a bad marriage is not a good thing for children. If the problem is your spouse, collect your proof and go for custody
Take her to court for custody she obviously doesn’t need the child since u do all the cleaning n bills etc n u need a divorce u don’t deserve to be treated like that by her or ur family she sounds like a bit**.
Dads have rights now more then ever…you have a right to have the baby in your care as much as she does…see a Attorney for a free console…then at least you have a record of what shes doing…otherwise she might start telling lies on you about being a abusive and stuff…keep record of all things you pay and when you try to see daughter…so she wont say you abandoned daughter…