I am fostering a baby who's mother did drugs the whole pregnancy: Advice?

Have any of you ladies experienced a baby being born addicted to drugs? My cousin is having a baby in February, and my husband and I have agreed to foster the baby. The mother has been actively using drugs for the whole pregnancy. (Heroin and meth) I just want to hear any stories that you have to share on the subject. Thanks!

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Feel free to message me. My baby was adopted but I cannot share stuff publicly.

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How does this work? Is she still using? Is she in care until baby is born? Is baby being monitored in utero?

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I know a mum who did a lot of drugs during pregnancy, her son came out mentally challenged … :disappointed: so sad I hope this baby will be ok

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My nephew. He cried alot more than my baby. Constantly inconsolable. It was really sad.

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I don’t have stories! But what a wonderful, selfless thing to do! :heart:

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Just be prepared for withdrawal. It’s awful to watch. That high pitch scream they make is unbearable at times. I don’t have a child that has been exposed during pregnancy. One of my children had his first surgery at 25 hours old. He had to withdrawal from morphine. This was my experience

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I cared for a baby that was born addicted to drugs at a daycare. The worst part was if she wasn’t held ALL. THE. TIME. she would cry. And not a normal cry but a heart wrenching high pitched screaming cry. And in daycare you can’t just sit and hold one baby all day. She also had other problems (obviously) but the heart breaking cry was the worst.

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I did it was hard ,but doable, similar to hyperactivity

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Dont they medicate the baby until he or she is fully weaned off the meds?

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So nice and selfless of you to foster. That baby will learn love from you💕

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Baby will scream lots, sweat and feel nauseated while he/she withdraws from the drugs

I dont have any experience in this matter, but I have heard that kangaroo care (wearing baby close to you, on your chest) helps with withdrawal symptoms and anxiety. Plus it’s awesome for bonding. Look into kangaroo care. I’m sorry the mother decided to make those selfish choices during pregnancy.

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My aunt adopted a little girl whose mother also did drugs and drank while she was pregnant. Physically she is fine but mentally she has a mild case of autism that they say comes from the drug abuse. She also has signs of fetal alcohol syndrome which has carried on into her young childhood however with time and patience she is excelling as any other could would she’s just slightly delayed and has some severe separation anxiety. Typically she is OK around the family and environments which are comfortable for her like school but unfamiliar situations and strangers can be tricky at 1st.

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Be prepared for heart defects, developmental delays, and lots and lots of services needed. Therapies from the start.
In some cases, growth hormones are part of those therapies.

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The baby will most likely spend days to weeks (even months depending on the baby) in the NICU on morphine to help with withdrawals and slowly weaned until he/she can be completely off the meds. I am a NICU nurse. If you like to know more information or have questions feel free to message me.

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They cry alot…and more then likely be in the hospital up to 3 mths

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Be prepared for patience. Baby will be very fussy and stuff. Very stressful but just know he dont mean it and had no say so in the matter. These situations are so sad to hear and see. Prayers. God bless you

Fostering or adopting? Get her to sign away her parental rights if you want that child to have a chance.

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Yes I had a family member baby who had a similar situation. She cried alot more and shaked.

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