I am having a hard time leaving the house I raised my daughter in: Advice?

I am a single mom. My daughter is six, and I have lived in my house for the past nine years. I fought hard in my divorce to keep my house. However, my house is in a city that is going downhill fast. I do not trust the school systems or anything in the city. Therefore, my daughter and I are moving in with my boyfriend in a few weeks. He lives in a much nicer area, and I feel safe there, but his house is sooo much smaller and not nearly as updated as mine. I know it will take time to make it my home, but I’m just looking for advice and/or words of experience/encouragement. I’m having a hard time preparing to leave my home, my safe place, the place where I raised my daughter, but I know I need to make this next step.

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We had a similar issue with moving from the house we raised our boys in from the ages of birth to 11. It was hard… but you take your memories with you and can and will build more! If its for the betterment of thier lives, health, education and your sanity… you need to do it. You will make more memories… amd the ones you already have no one can take away. My home is where my children are… no matter what the house or condo or apartment we are in. Best of luck in your decision sweetie!

She’s only 6! She is far from raised! You’ll make memories in a new place! I lived in my last home 18 years! Raised 3 out of 4 children! So many wonderful memories in those walls! But my youngest and I have been making new memories the past 4 years in our new home!

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How reliable is this relationship?
I would hate to see you sell your home and then y’all break up…if you were married you would have legal protection, but if you guys are “living together” what happens to you all if there’s a breakup?

I know, I really know how to suck the life out of a plan. But something to think about.

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Please keep your house. You didn’t fight to keep your home just to get rid of it over some guy that you’ve been with for a little while. What are you going to do if y’all decide to call it quits in the future. Where will you and your baby go.

Stay in your own home do not give it up if you and your boyfriend doesn’t work out you will be up the creek without a paddle

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Rent your home. It can be a pain at times and hard funding good tenants, but you will always have security knowing you have a place to go back to.

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Keep your home think about your daughter.things are always good at the beginning it is not you and him alone if things should go sour you will need a home for your daughter and yourselt

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Be careful! Please READ what Marilyn Willett wrote.

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I’ve done it too
Just take a deep breathe.
Your doing this for a safer place for your child.
Take as many photos make it fun.
This is a new chapter and their will be many many more chapters and many more adventures.
Kids adapt if it smaller then your house make it warm and cozy but don’t forget to let your boyfriend have his own manly space.
Check out the new schools talk to the principal and staff
Find a place near your new home that your child will like to help transition into a new area.
Good luck stay safe :two_hearts:

Try to look at it as an adventure and not that you’re leaving your safe harbour. You feel safe with your boyfriend and appear to be starting a new family with him. Involve your daughter and boyfriend in making your home. Fresh paint, new curtains, and a female touch and will feel more like home. Do it as a family and you will continue to feel safe. Remember you’re doing it for you and your daughter to be in a better environment. The rest will fall into place. Good luck on your new adventure!

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It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but the very best thing I’ve ever done for my kids and I. You will always have your memories wherever you are. Smaller house closer to your loves. Enjoy your new adventure.

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Did the same thing. Worried about the same. But bought the new house with my bf. My son and I took pictures in each empty room to say goodbye, and a nice front door pic. It was very therapeutic for me. He was only 4 and totally adaptable.

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Do not worry about how “updated” the house is, or how small. You are doing the right thing for you both, just take your time and enjoy this new adventure. Good luck!

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Well if you got a boyfriend you sure ain’t a single mom anymore… women using that shit as a “feel sorry for me” routine