I am having anxiety about giving birth: Advice?

I’m pregnant in about 33 weeks so soon to give birth, and my husband and family are so excited, but…I’m scared… it’s my 3rd pregnancy, and I miscarried my second. With my first, I had an emergency c section, so I was asleep, I’ve never had a normal birth, so I’m scared for both a normal birth and being awake for a c section. I’m just plain scared. I need some help from some mommies who have been through both. Please, and thank you.

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Ask if you dont have to do a vbac and if you can schedule a csection instead

Usually if your 1st is CS, then it is mostly CS on the succeeding births. Doctors can give you anesthesia that would make you fall asleep. No need to worry on being awake the whole time. :blush:

I e had an emergency csection put to sleep then had one where I was awake… girl!! In that moment I didn’t care about anything but get this baby out in one piece. I didn’t feel anything minus some pressure when they were pulling her out… and I was asleep shortly after… so what you have been doing, listen to your body and just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Don’t worry yourself I er what can go wrong… deal with the issue as they happen if they even happen…

I just had my very first baby last year. And I had to have a C-section because my baby was breach. Honestly, it was not as scary as I thought it was gonna be. It seems overwhelming at first when you first go in, but it went very smoothly. Nothing to be scared of. But your feelings are understandable. And If your first is a C-section, you can still give birth naturally on your second one. However, if your second is a C-section also, your 3rd will have to be a C-section.

I had a emergency c section with my 1st and i was awake i didnt have time to be scared. But i had the next one was going to v back but got scared and begged for a c section. I was scared but i knew how to heal from that. The 2nd was so much easier than the 1st. The 3rd was scheduled c section and it was the easiest to heal from i believe because i didnt go thru all the labor pains 1st. I was honestly scared everytime because i think its natural to be scared because yes it hurts but as soon as they hand you your baby the pain is so worth it :hugs::hugs::hugs: best of luck mommy!!! You will be fine!!!

My first was emergency c section so I was out, my second was a c section and I was awake and it wasn’t bad at all. I was scared do death to. They give you the epidural like normal. The most you will feel during the c section is just pressure. No pain just pressure.

I’m 33 weeks with my third as well… all 3 will be c sections and yes, even though I’ve been through it twice, I still feel a bit of anxiety myself. My biggest stress point is preterm labor as that was a big deal with my previous two. My second was supposed to be a natural birth but after 6 hrs at 1 cm, my doctor asked if I wanted to wait it out and I opted for c section instead. This time it was a mutual agreement to just schedule c section and be done with it. Just make sure your support person is someone who can talk to you and keep you relaxed, the nurses also usually do a good job of that. My first was also emergency c section but I was awake then too. Say a prayer, breathe and focus on the fact that you are about to bring a beautiful new life into this world. Everything will be just fine and your worry will fade as soon as your hear that first cry. Good luck and God bless! :heart:

Look up badassmotherbirther her page is very inspiring and empowering to birthers. The page is here on Facebook and Instagram. Do more research. Look into Doulas they can help you with supporting you during birth. In the end you’re going to find what’s best for you and you will have a little bundle of joy in your arms.

I recently had a c section… After being induced 3 times I was not dilating labour was not progressing. My doctor finally said she would have to operate. My other kids were all vaginal deliveries, I was so scared. When we got to the operating room my heart started racing… And I was having trouble breathing… Had to be given oxygen and they spoke to me while they were getting me ready to calm me down. It happened so quickly… And when I heard her cry… And I realized she was ok… Best feeling ever… So be positive… Be strong for your little angel… And don’t forget to pray… Everything will be ok :hugs::hugs::hugs:

Start practicing meditation and affirmations specific to the process of childbirth. You will do it… there is no choice lol. Make it as peaceful as possible and make sure everyone in the room follows your rules

My first I was awake duing my emergency csection. It’s scary but all you can think about is your baby. My 2nd was a planned csection and same deal. I was scared but you just think about your baby. I was shaking really bad so they gave me some medicine to help me calm down. Just talk to your birth team, everything will be ok. :heart::heart:

I had an emergency csection at 26&5 weeks pregnant where I was awake and I’m glad I was the only part I was scared for was the blocker getting put it. Because my daughter was so early and small I didn’t get to see her until 23 hours after. You making it to full term and being awake means you can see your precious gift as soon as possible. It’s a moment that is so precious and beautiful. It wasn’t bad at all once that blocker went in. You can’t feel a thing and the doctors talk you through and nurses are there too. My nurse was the best nurse. She knew I was scared so she sang to me and then with me.

This is the same exact situation I went thru. My first was emergency c section so I was asleep so with my second and third i was petrified of being awake…i had such extreme anxiety over the thought of it. Both times as soon as they took the baby out they gave me something to put me to sleep cause I was panicking so bad. I guess I don’t have much advice except you will get thru it and you will be ok! The end result is worth it all and if you can just keep your mind on that you will be ok

First baby, was planned c-section, but she came earlier than expected. Second baby, was going to try natural birth, but even with pitocin given, I wasn’t dialating, and had to have c-section. Third baby, was automatic c-section. Just mentioning all this to prepare u that u may not be able to have it naturally, even if that’s the plan. Just be prepared mentally. I hope all goes well for u and baby.

First baby emergency csection awake through the whole thing was absolute petrified but just kept thinking I will soon be holding my little boy and ill know he’s safe. Soon as they put him to the side of me relief just took over. X

I am a maternity nurse…did you take a birthing class? If you didn’t that could help ease your anxiety. I agree your body knows what to do! Usually once a c-section always a csection but a vaginal Birth can be done safely. Pain after a vaginal delivery is typically less than with a surgery post delivery and recovery time is quicker. The best thing to do is sit and have a conversation with your doctor discuss what your concerns are, what is the best plan for you and if you haven’t taken a child birth class to do so! There are 7 more weeks left in your pregnancy use that time to gather the information on what is best for you, in the end all that matters is healthy mom and healthy baby it will all work out!

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Pray that is all you can do at this point

Had 5 babies 1 without anything 2 with demoral eased the pain but still hard 1 with c section had to have the needle in my back and get numbed I was afraid of that needle but it was nothing so then 12 years later I had my last I was afraid being much older could I even bear it so asked for that epadoral ! It was the easiest birth out of all of them so I would say get the epidural and you’ll be fine good luck!

I was really scared as well. You might be scared now but your mind and body have a fantastic way of handling hard births or births in general. Youll be able to handle it momma when it comes down to it. Have faith in your mind and body :heart: