I am having mixed emotions with dating while pregnant: Advice?

I’m 30 weeks, and the father and I have completely cut ties. He’s been in a new relationship for five months now, and I’ve been talking with someone, and he knows my situation and we both like each other I’m just not totally comfortable inviting him over as I’m showing a lot and I don’t know if I’m going to want to be Intimate like cuddling or kissing and other stuff. I want to wait until I have the baby, but I don’t want to be alone when I know he can be there for me

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Tell him. Be honest about how you feel hunny. Communication is key xx

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Its better to have him around now then one the baby comes because then you have a little time to really get to know him imo but do whatever makes you comfortable

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Tbh, Id concentrate on just yourself and the baby for now. But that’s just me!

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Be up front with this new person about your feelings and expectations :woman_shrugging:t2: nothing wrong with that

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Get to know him now so you know what your baby will be around. Dont leave anyone alone with that baby until you fully trust them

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Just take it slow. Start out as friends you can hang out, Talk, go shopping just see where it leads

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I think it’s weird that people date while pregnant. Why can’t you just be by yourself till after the baby

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I think it’s great that you found a man who supports your current situation. I think you should be up front with him about how you feel because if the relationship is ever going to progress communication is key. If he accepts you already pregnant I don’t really think he’s going to have an issue with your feelings of waiting. It’s probably more your insecurities and you just need to talk through them.

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If he knows your pregnant, he knows you’re going to get a big baby bump. If he’s cool with that then don’t be ashamed of your body, you are growing a human! :heart:

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A real man will respect if you don’t want to be intimate. If y’all are dating as friends then I’d say go for it. But really just communicate with him how you are feeling and see what he has to say about it. I found the love of my.life when my daughter was 3 months old and he came in and he acted like she was his from day one… I went through my entire pregnancy and labor by myself. If he is man enough to want to be that person give him a chance!.. Some men are totally into pregnant woman… I wouldn’t be too worried about the baby belly :heart:

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I mean he already knows you’re pregnant so what difference does it make? I started seeing my now husband when I was 5 months pregnant by someone else.

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Personally a man would be the last thing on my mind while being pregnant especially if he aint the father. Id just be focusing on becoming a mom and letting a relationship form later on in life

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Here’s my story. I got pregnant and there was a guy who I thought was the father if my kids and I was not with him. I met my now husband when I was 2 and a half months pregnant. We weren’t looking for a relationship at the time but it turned into one. He was with me through all the drama with the guy who I thought was the father of my daughter. He was with me when I gave birth. He went to all of my appointments. I even gave him a chance to leave b4 she was born so he wouldn’t have to choose the life of a father if he didn’t want to. Here we are 6 years later with 2 beautiful baby girls 1 is 5 and the other is almost 1. You just need to let him know how you feel and see what he says. I never thought that I would end up dating anyone while I was pregnant just for the fact he knows that the baby i am carrying would not be his. But my now husband stepped up and became the father my daughter needed.

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Be honest with him, talk to him about what you are feeling. If he is understanding then keep dating, this way you both are on the same page.

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Being pregnant and alone especially without the father there is definitely a lonely road…I did it alone and while I was at the lowest point of my life when I look back at my pregnancy now it makes me so sad, it wasn’t how I envisioned my pregnancy would go at all. I think you should just tell him how you feel and see if he would be okay with just being friends during your pregnancy before exploring your friendship deeper…

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Girl get it. Enjoy your life. Just be friends and if things are right they will fall into place.

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Let him be there for you! He might be the man of your dreams and he wants to be with you.

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Become friends 1st. But be honest from the start.

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People. Take some time for yourselves.

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