I am in a wedding but want to TTC. The bride doesn't want anyone to be pregnant: Advice?

I wanted to get advice. My husband and I have been planning for a year now to have our last baby next year. This is not something we discuss with anyone but ourselves. We like to keep our baby-making plans private. Someone we are close to is getting married next year (it was supposed to be 2-3 years originally). I am in the wedding. Now, whether we have a little one or not, I can still be at the wedding. I would either have a young baby (this is not a child-free wedding, and some of my family would be there to help) or be pregnant if everything went as planned. She has recently brought up to me that someone else at the wedding is planning to be pregnant at the time of the wedding and she is really upset about it. I honestly am not sure what to do. I am not getting any younger and do not want to have my last one after a certain age. I had every intention of trying before she was ever engaged. So do I put my family on hold even though I have been planning this for a year, or do I just go about my life and hope she doesn’t hate me? I want to be by her side for her big day, but I also want to start wrapping up my life and family before it is too late. I’m so conflicted.

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You don’t put your family on hold for someone else that’s insane

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You don’t put your family on hold for someone else’s wedding…

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If you are truly close to this person- she shouldn’t have anything but happiness in her heart when you get pregnant. You should absolutely NOT put your family plans on hold because you’re in a wedding.

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I would definitely put your family first, if she is truly your friend she will understand.

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You do what you want, it is your family. If she has a problem with it, ask her to move the wedding date.

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Get prego, a true friend would be happy for you, regardless of the timing, in the end.

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BRIDEZILLA ALERT!!! Your friend is being selfish to even think that way.

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You and your family come first! If she really cares about she’ll understand, if not your not missing anything!

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Don’t put your life on hold for anyone dear. Littles are precious

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This isn’t even a question. Have that baby. Your “friend” can kick rocks.

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Bridezilla :persevere: dont put your family on hold for that. This person should be happy for you not cause such a thing. It’s none of her business if and when you get pregnant.

Why would you even have to tell her it was a whole plan? Like ooops I’m pregnant. So happy. Yay.

I wouldn’t be in the wedding. :woman_shrugging:

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I was asked to.be in my friends wedding. Way before I got.pregnant. I said yes because I got them together orginally. It was a blessing. After I found out I was pregnant. I had to tell.her I was 5 months by the time the wedding rolled around. She was so.happy for me. She was more mad about the other bridesmaid who hid it from her that she was also pregnant be open and honest if it happens.

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you do NOT need to put your life on hold for that. If you are pregnant by the time of her wedding and she’s upset than it is her problem. It’s messed up that she’s angry the other woman is pregnant and she should not be treating her friends that way. I’m sorry but I feel she needs to grow up. You do you and if she gets mad or kicks you out of the wedding than let her.

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Tell her to like it or lump it, it’s not down to her whether you get pregnant or not… Don’t put it on hold for her xx

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who cares what she wants! It’s your life!

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I find it hard to believe that a person would be so incredibly selfish to be upset that people in her wedding party are pregnant…

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Sounds like this person is not grown up. Pretty childish to expect people to put their lives on hold for her wedding.

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