I am insecure after having kids: Advice?

So I just had another baby this is my 3rd child after I had my first child I’ve been insecure so bad. I’m to the point I argue with my husband because of my insecurities we could be watching a movie together and if it has an attractive female in it that has cleavage showing or they have sex in it I get in a bad mood towards him and feel he wishes I was her. I am so insecure I need help. Has anyone else felt this insecure, and how did u fix it?

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Grow up. People in movies all look perfect (that’s why it’s tv). Your husband thinks your sexy. You better stop or he will end up leaving you

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Oh momma, I’m sorry your feeling this way.
I understand it.
Your body will never again be a pre-baby body, so release that idea, please.
What you have now is the body of a woman who can create miracles!
If your partner is showing attraction to you, try to disempower your concerns.
Have you considered some counseling in the subject?
You could be going through a form of post partum.
Love and light to you.
I pray you find the beauty and sensuality you desire within this miraculous new physical form. :purple_heart:

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I would suggest talking with a therapist if you can. Insuecurites like that can definitely ruin a relationship, especially if he isn’t commenting on stuff or outright looking. Have you talked to him about your insecurities? Maybe he could help you through them as well. I am a bit insecure myself but not in that fashion. Best of luck.

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Relax girl. 3 babies it’s obvious he loves you/ your body and changes are normal. Take it day by day. When you’re 80, saggy and wrinkly he will still love you. Communication is key.

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Yea something isn’t right with that if you just automatically get angry with him over hot girls in movies… go talk to a therapist. I’m even insecure as fuck but I don’t get mad at my SO cause there’s a hot chick on the TV now if she’s looking at other chicks all the time then yea ima get mad.

Just think of it the opposite. He probably feels that way when Channing Tatum or Charlie Hunnam are on the screen. :woman_shrugging:

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Seriously I understand exactly how you feel, I’ve always felt like this even from the beginning of my relationship I am pregnant with my first now.

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You need to seek therapy.

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I felt really insecure after I had my first…and third sons. (Not to the extent that your at ) but it eventually just passed for me. I just got use to the fact that my body changed ( and my hormones returned to normal :joy: )… Obviously my body has changed… but me as a person, is the same… probly better! Especially cuz now I have 3 beautiful boys :blue_heart:… You should probably start focusing on the good in your relationship and yourself. It’ll get better as time goes on.

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You gotta understand that every woman is different ,you can’t compare yourself with somebody from the tv or even in person , you are beautiful the way you are , talk to him if he loves he will understand for sure

She doesn’t need to ‘grow up’. This isn’t a problem with her being immature. She needs professional help.
You need professional help lady. Go talk to someone /with someone, and try to figure out what you can do to try to lessen your feelings about your insecurities. You’re husband chose your to have babies with. You know, I think I’m pretty, I know my husband thinks I’m about the most beautiful thing he’s ever seen, but I also know there are way prettier women out there. And he’ll see them… But they won’t be me. (4 kids here, 1st ones were twins) Your body isn’t the only thing that makes you, you. You are a whole package, and the physical body isn’t even a big part of that. Talk with someone before you’re relationship is ruined because of something neither of you can change.

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Do something to make yourself feel better! Get a new hair look, or buy some Clothes, or get your nails done, or start a exercise routine! Rock that body and love it! This is your life you own it! If you don’t feel happy in your own skin do small changes to make yourself happier!

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Your hubs must enjoy baby making to be at baby 3. I honestly suggest therapy.

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A lot of y’all are rude af. Being insecure isn’t caused by immaturity and it’s not as easy as just “relaxing.”

To the poster: I’m sorry for the rude comments. Please know that you may not look like them, but they dont look like them either. They have professional makeup artists and hair stylists and Photoshop and editors and professional camera men all working to make them look like that. In the real world, they look a lot like you. Messy hair, blemishes, tummy pouch. Not to mention that even if he wanted them, I doubt your husband is Channing Tatum. They live far away and are always traveling for work. He won’t have a chance to get with them. Even more, personalities play a huge role in attraction. He loves you for much more than your body.

Hugs and love

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I felt this way when I was with my ex husband too :frowning: . its something inside of you :frowning:

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I went through the same thing and I still feel that way a lot of the time. It’s gotten to the point where I refuse to watch tv or movies with my spouse bc I feel so ugly. I’m sorry you feel this way, just know that you’re not alone girl❤

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I’m sorry a few women are being so unkind instead of validating your feelings and helping you, I hope they never treat their children that way. I’d personally rather be insecure than a bitch to other women needing help, wouldn’t you?
Forst of all, your husband chose YOU. He had 3 children with YOU. He’s watching these movies with YOU. Check out Adrienne Everheart. Her videos are free and her group is free and I promise it WILL change everything for you.

Affirmations. I’m telling you, it works. Tell yourself you’re thankful for the body you have because it housed and grew beautiful babies. Then go on to affirm other things in your life. Any time you have negative self talk, shut it down and turn it positive. I promise, it helps and changes everything. Do this for a month and you’ll see the difference. You have to see you as beautiful. Because you are. Good luck, momma.

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The only person that can make you feel better is you. You need to find something for yourself that makes you feel sexy. You can also speak to a therapist to help.

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