I am looking for an egg donor: Thoughts on how I am feeling?

I’m at the start of trying to find an egg donor, so my eight and a half-month-old daughter can have a brother or sister. I’m reading people’s ads for donors that read more like job applications from millionaires. I think who in their right mind would want to donate to me. I’m almost 38. I’m not rich, and God damn it some weekends I wear track pants and eat dinner in front of the TV. I’m reading ads from people that have 4 - 5 children already and I’m thinking " don’t you have enough already " does that make me a horrible person.?? and people flying overseas to pay 60 to 70 thousand dollars for a donor. Ok, that’s fine, but unless I sell my soul, I’m not going to be able to afford that ( and I’m petrified of flying anyway ). My husband and I have so much love to give, and shouldn’t that be enough.??

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Try adopting. Or fostering to adopt. Plenty of kids need loving homes.

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There are so many other ways, hun. Foster, adopt, egg adoption…don’t limit yourself to just egg donation.

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I think your thoughts on others having enough is coming from a place of pain. I have a big family and I’m not offended. I hope you and your hubby have another baby. Some people use acupuncture for fertility issues, maybe look into it.

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You could always adopt or become foster parents

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I have looked into becoming an egg donor but the criteria is just rediculas honestly. I understand being jealous it comes from pain, it doesnt make you a bad person it makes you human. Best of luck!

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Your thoughts and feelings are completely valid.

You don’t have to be a fancy millionaire to be a perfectly good parent.

Just a heads up, make sure to check your state/local laws regarding egg donation/surrogacy and such. I just recently found out that some states have some pretty strict laws about that sort of thing.

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post like this make me wish i was able to donate mine. shitty genetics disqualify me from surrogacy, egg donation and really anything pregnancy related. sucks so much i wish it was easier to obtain them :frowning:

I was a donor for a while. I never got paired with anyone. Kind of bummed me out.

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I’d donate some eggs to you if I wasnt currently pregnant! But maybe in the next couple of months if you’re still looking keep me in mind.

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Love the child you have some have none

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Just breath and let it happen , you just never know what’s around the corner. Keep being a awesome mom and let life show you what’s in store.

I would have loved to be an egg donor but never qualified as I have given a child up for adoption :pensive:

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Can you ask a family member or a friend if they can donate?

have you looked into donated embryos from couples that have done IVF but no longer want anymore kids but still have some frozen? They give that couple a choice of donating or letting them thaw. Not sure on the parameters of that but its a thought.

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Adopt. Foster… there are many options here.

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Where do you live?
I’ll donate

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I’d donate my eggs once my pregnancy is over in May

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It should be! And is!
Ask friends, family members! Ask your local community ! :revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts: Id donate a egg or carry a child for any of my loved ones.

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I’d be glad to donate eggs,but I’m “too old”. :frowning: