Does anyone feel like they would get more help with their kids if they just got a divorce? I am so sick of being miserable in my marriage - our marriage has not been happy in quite some time - and doing it all by myself. I’ve realized recently that I have stuck around for them and for the “help” but that I am doing them more harm growing up in a “toxic” relationship. And I don’t get any help anyway, so why not live my life and be happy with my kids?!
That’s right. It’s not good for the kids to not see you happy
Get a divorce! Nothing wrong with it. If that’s what’s gonna make both of you happier, THATS what your kids deserve to see.
I think they answered their own question at the end.
Seems as though you already know what you should do. As far as the kids go, it’s better to be from a broken home than to be in a toxic one. Good luck.
I can’t say what is best for you relationship. I don’t know why you are unhappy. And a decision like this is never an easy or quick one. But for me personally, my partner was cheating and neither of us were hapoy bi stayed because I thought it what was best for the kids. I felt like I never had any help. When we finally separated, everything became alot healthier. He and I now have a great relationship. Without all the other stuff, we were both able to be happier and in turn better parents. He has an amazing relationship with his kids and he and I get along great. I’m a better and healthier mother. We have a better relationship now than we did when we were together.
Seems like you already know the answer
I recently divorced for the same reason! Don’t stay complacent. Teach your kids to step out of their comfort zone and do what ever it takes to be happy…no matter what society says!
Honestly when you get to that point in a marriage it feels like you have one more kid to take care of. I think children can sense a parent’s unhappiness no matter how hard they try to hide it and I believe it would be better to have two separate happy parents then parents who are miserable together
Have you tried everything else?
It’s not healthy. Get out.
I was a single married person, doing it all alone. I’m 50 & divorced for 3 years now. I felt the same way, if I’m doing it alone then I may as well be single!! #noregrets
Does your spouse know you feel this way?
Do what you need to do BUT…
Just because you get a divorce doesn’t mean that you both magically get along. The kids will still see the destruction caused by the divorce and they will still see you fight. Then you’ll battle over visitation and child support. Then you’ll bring other people into the their little lives… I can go on but you get the point.
Divorce doesn’t fix anything other than create OTHER issues.
Ya’ll need to learn HOW to get along before ANYTHING. That will help whether you stay or leave.
Have you tried counseling? Not to take away from the way you feel but communication might be the issue here. He might think that you enjoy doing what you are doing so he doesn’t see it as a problem and this in turn is making you resent him for it.
Leave then if you’re thinking about it its time
Have you tried communicating how you feel to your partner? If not, you’re giving up on a commitment without even trying. You said vows! What’s toxic about the relationship?
Here is my take. You have one life, why spend it being unhappy? I hate when people say they stay together for the kids, it’s toxic for those kids to watch. I grew up praying my parents would get a divorce and stop screaming at each other and me all the time.
Honestly, you only live once, do what makes you happy. Sometimes you have to make it about yourself and not the kids
Are you able to see a counselor?