I am nervous to leave my son when I give birth: Advice?

I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant with my second baby. My son is 11 months, and we have never had a night apart. I am scheduled for a c section and know I must stay a minimum of 3 days in the hospital, and I’m aware he cannot visit due to covid. It will be my first few nights without seeing my son, and honestly, I feel a strong sense of anxiety and helplessness, knowing this is coming up in three short weeks. My question is, how did everyone else feel? How did you get over that anxiety? It’s my biggest worry, ATM. I don’t want to feel this anxiety over my son I know he is in good hands, I just can’t get over this overwhelming feeling of not being ready to let him go a few nights.

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You may cry. You may lose your shit. It is hard. But you have another wonderful human who also needs you mama. Call your son. Talk. And coo and aw over this new baby. You might hit a bump. But it will all smooth over and you will be okay and so will both of your babes.

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You could always face time with him. Mom away but still near…

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I suggest letting him spend the night at least once before hand with whom ever he will be staying with it could help ease the anxiety! That’s what I did when I got pregnant with my second bubs a while back and it helped loads

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I cried and cried and cried. Having a baby isn’t fun, having a baby during covid was the hardest thing ever.
We FaceTimed when we could. Then I cried when we got off.
It’s a short time and you will be okay. I asked for Ativan one night just so I could sleep. Do what you have to do to get through it.

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I was the same way with my oldest. I knew he was in good hands but had never been away from me over night. FaceTime or video chat helps a lot, and he visited everyday( pre covid).

Following. I’m currently 34 weeks with our baby girl and my beautiful boy will be 11 months when I give birth and I’m so anxious to be without him

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If everything is ok with you and the baby you can leave within 48h you don’t have to stay three days. I went into labor early and my in-laws watched our son, they do a great job. If he is In Good hands mama don’t stress! They love you and your baby!

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Honestly you’ll probably feel anxious either way but the best thing to do is just make sure he’s with somebody that you really trust and you know will be able to call you so you can video chat with him or something after your C-section

I allowed my little girl to stay a few nights here and there to help her adjust as well. She had barley turned 1 when I had my 2nd. But this way she was excited to stay the night with my cousin and when time came she was super excited to spend several days with my cousin not just one. But I also had an amazing cousin who made her time very enjoyable for her

Turn it into a positive babe. Just think it will allow you quicker time to heal, bond with your new baby and then when home lots of bonding time all together. I had my second c section in lockdown I was out after 24hrs again no visitors. I diddnt bond with first child for months however this was a god send to me (the only positive about Corona virus) it gave me one on one time with my second baby. Chin up you got this :grin::heavy_heart_exclamation:

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Kids are resilient it will be ok he wont remember u got this.

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In all situations. You’re always gonna feel that way .!!. Remember… he won’t remember it … as long as you say … He’s in Good Hands .!!. :cherry_blossom:

i understand completely how u feel. i was terrified as well my son was 18 months and i never left him before. my mom had visited and we stayed the night there a few times to get him adjusted. i def cried when he left but he did sooo great. i had everything prepared for him and my mom and him did well together

I was a single mum, and my mother offered to help so I could get some sleep, I slept in the same house but baby with grandma. after a few tries I realised my mother knew what she was doing and I could trust her with my baby! Now she has her whenever she likes!

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I had a scheduled c section and was discharged after 24 hours x
My son who has asd was fine we just got someone to look after him in our house so things weren’t too different for him and his dad didn’t stay with me in hospital too long so he could get back home to our boy x

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My LO is 14months and I will be having baby #2 in March and I honestly feel the same. I am a SAHM and we are always together, he only goes to one of his grandmas for 2-3hrs when i go shopping or to appointments. I actually looked at my boyfruend the other night and said “I made a choice, my baby boy is coming with and you can wait at home, because I don’t think I can go without him” he didn’t think it was funny but its honestly how I feel. So you are not alone in feeling how you feel. Good luck!

It is hard! I cried😢 I had my 2nd on Oct 30th (yup his bday is tomorrow) and his 1 1/2 yr old brother was home and couldn’t come in due to the flu season. I had to miss him trick or treating😢 I begged the dr to let me leave early because I was such a mess about my other boy being home. It worked because they let me leave 1 day early😁 You will be ok and the biggest thing I learned was I was more upset than my son was. You will get through it and those 3 days will fly right by! Best wishes to you

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I had my baby girl 3 months ago. I’ve never been away from my oldest girl since she was born. Shes also been breastfed too. She stayed with my mom. I was in the hospital for 3 days. The 1st night was hard but the 2nd night wasn’t. I video chatted with her as soon as I could. Thinking about her and the baby gave me energy to heal faster as well so I could go home.

I believe infants (11 months old still counts!!) are allowed to go to the hospital. Talk with your provider.