I am not longer attracted to my boyfriend due to weight gain: Advice?

I need advice about my boyfriend. So I’ve been with my boyfriend for about four years now. When we first met, he was very into working out and taking care of himself. About two years ago, he let himself go and gained about 60+ pounds and doesn’t care about taking care of himself. We used to have a lot of good sex, but the past year there has been very little to none. When we do have sex, we aren’t into it and pretty much have given up on the idea. When I lay down at night, I still want to, but I’m having a hard time getting turned on by him. I want to be with someone who will give me my needs, so my question is… if things don’t get better, is it worth leaving him?

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Talk to him n tell him exactly this.

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Maybe he’s struggling with something. Try talking to him.

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You sound like a bad person.

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If he wrote in saying he’s not attracted to you due to weight gain you’d lose your ever loving mind.

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Yes, let him find someone less shallow.

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Maybe he needs some support and conversations as to why he has lost pride in himself… if this was the other way round d there would be an uproar …

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If this was the other way around you would be hurt :frowning: instead of leaving him why don’t you be like “hey let’s go on gym dates together “ OR “let’s start eating healthy TOGETHER “ sounds like you’re basing your relationship off of nothing but attraction…

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Hopefully he leaves u first

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Obviously you do not love him because if you did that wouldn’t matter to you at all , I could understand if you were just concerned for his health but that’s not the case , leave so he can find someone who
Might actually love him .

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Looks fade but a good man is a good man. If you love him talk to him, support him, encourage him. He is a person. He is supposed to be your person. Do better babe. :blue_heart:

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You sound shallow. Maybe ask him if he needs support or if something is wrong. Offer to support him in anyway you can.

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You’d definitely get your feelings hurt if the tables were turned. Sounds like he may be depressed and turned to food for comfort. Communication goes a LONG way in a relationship. Go talk to him, you may be surprised.

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Maybe try talking to him and maybe start working out and eating better together. If it were the other way around I’m sure you’d be really hurt.

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Yes. I would leave him and let him find someone who loves him you don’t deserve him. I hope when you leave him he loses a bunch of weight and is hot!!! Maybe you make him depressed and that’s why he has gained weight!!! Best of luck to him.

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He might be depressed. Try helping him instead of making it worse.

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For real? That’s shallow as heck. Ever think he might have depression from having to deal with someone like you? If the tables were turned you would lose your shit

He sounds depressed…what happened 2 years ago? Such an understanding and loving person you are…not!

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Sounds like he is depressed

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That’s how life is, been married for years and your partner just quicks been romantic. You got to lead the game. It’s hard.