"How do you catch a cheating spouse?
You know he is seeing someone but you don’t have enough evidence, he has changed the passwords to all his devices and he guards his phone and other devices jealously.
What can you do in such a situation? Getting evidence is not to cause any problem but to have enough proof to confront him and restore the relationship."
RELATED QUESTION: How Do You Get Over — Forgive, Even — a Partner Who Cheated on You?
TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):
“Proof to confront him and restore the relationship… You deserve better.”
“He won’t stop just because you confront him. Don’t play yourself; he already did that.”
“Once a cheater, always a cheater. My ex-husband cheated on me for 8 years. I was too busy with kids, house cleaning, the routines to do everything he expected and demanded. Also, he abused me too so I dealt with him until my daughter saw him kiss another woman when I was at work. He would bribe my kids not to tell me but they still tell me. So the court gave me full custody, my house just in my name, and everything is mine I can do what I want to do. I will not restore the relationship I threw him out of the house he went to jail.”
“Password protecting you out of all of his devices is proof enough. After 2 cheating fiances (yes, I was engaged twice before my current) who locked me out of their devices and currently engaged to one who allows me access to everything, I’ve learned that this is a huge red flag. Also, once a cheater, always a cheater. Don’t waste your time trying to fix it.”
“He’s not trying to restore your relationship. He’s trying to replace you so why would you want to embarrass yourself by staying with someone that is capable of hurting you like that? I’ve been down that road and there’s no fixing someone who doesn’t see a problem in themselves or their actions. Free yourself.”
“Restore the relationship??? Why??? You can’t make someone not cheat. Once a cheater always a cheater.”
“Just talk to him. Don’t snoop. Tell him you already know in your heart what’s going on and you still want to restore the relationship but to do so you need him to come clean and start a clean slate IF he’s willing to end it and work on your relationship. Maybe he will change. Maybe he won’t. But if you decide to forgive him, do some soul searching and make sure you really can. Because your relationship won’t survive if you can’t forgive him. You deserve better, but I pray everything works out for you.”
“If you prove it and he says sorry, will you trust him again? Are you ready to find out the truth & what comes with it? Changing passwords is already very obvious so it is all up to you, maybe you talk about it & just confront him, it will save you time than finding evidences. If he denies with guilty responses by telling you you’re just paranoid & put some blame on you, that speaks enough.”
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