I am pregnant and giving my baby to a family member: Can I legally do that while having post partum depression?

I’m 19 years old … I got pregnant with my son when I was 18 and gave birth at 18… I recently found out that I’m pregnant again even though I was taking birth control…it was nothing planned, and I’m not ready mentally for another child I struggle with postpartum depression I’ve had it since my son was born …with that being said I plan on giving this baby to a relative who can not have children due to cysts on her ovaries and she’s super excited and I know she can give this baby a good life for she is financially stable and all she’s ever wanted is to be a mommy …my question is can I legally sign over my rights if I have postpartum depression?? And opinions on my situation, am I wrong for not keeping the baby ???

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You do what’s good for you and what’s good for baby… :heart: I’m not sure the state law where you are but it shouldn’t be an issue hun, I’m wishing you nothing but the best

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Idk about the legal part, but you’re not wrong for giving the baby up if u feel like u cant do it.

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If im not mistaken you can sign your rights over for whatever reason. And i think its awesome momma!! Your gonna give that family member so much love and happy memories. I actually see this as really selfless.

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You might need to consult a lawyer and a mediator to make sure you are in the right state of mind but I applaud you I know this might be hard but you will the best decision for you and your baby

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I believe as long as both parties relinquish rights it shouldnt be a problem. My sister in law adopted my niece through another family member and there was never any issue since both parties did this. Look for a pro bono lawyer or even a local free help center through your local courthouse. Best of luck and just so you know YOU ARE AMAZING FOR WHAT YOU ARE DOING! Responsible, smart, courageous and strong :black_heart::black_heart::black_heart::black_heart:

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This is a hard decision but it’s up to YOU to make. Personally I don’t think I could do it but it doesn’t make it wrong. Just think long and hard before you make a difficult decision like that.

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Legally, someone has to adopt the child to sign over your rights. Just went through it with my daughter. (Dad didnt want to be responsible.)

Do whats best for you and that baby. I think it is incredibly admirable of you to do for your family member

You’re doing the right thing. Give your son a stable, happy life.

Chica, I’m 22, and if I was in your shoes, I would do the same thing. Being a mom is really hard, and even though the baby will be raised by someone else, at least you know it will be healthy and happy and hopefully you can visit anytime you want as the aunt or something. If you feel like this is the right decision, then go for it. As for legalities, I’m not certain…

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You’re never wrong for make the best decision for you. You are strong and brave for wanting what is best for this child. <3 Hugs to you.

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I don’t see why having ppd would make a difference. You do what you feel is right for you and your child

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Bless you so much for making dreams come true. Happy holidays little momma

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You dont have to mention any your issues if you and her agree with anything then signed over :woman_shrugging:

You can also see about signing your rights over before the birth but also make sure you talk to your doctor to get something to help with the post partum.

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Yes, you can sign the baby over and kudos to you for realizing your limits. Prayers to you. Get yourself well, mentally. You should be very proud of the decision you’re making and not allow anyone to make you feel less than. You are giving this baby a beautiful gift of stability and a loving home, as well as someone the chance to parent, that may not otherwise have the chance. You are strong! You are beautiful! You deserve all the prayers!

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You are not wrong for being this caring you have a big heart. And I would think itd just me an in family adoption and there will just be paperwork stating that.

You are NOT WRONG for making this choice. Your mental health is huge and I highly recommend you talk to a doctor about this. I was adopted, so if you want some advice please feel free to message me. If your baby is going to be with someone who is able to care for it-there is absolutely nothing to worry about! As far as “giving” do you mean adoption or is this person just going to be a caretaker? Adoption is permanent. I’d definitely sit down with this person and a lawyer to discuss this process. Because there’s a lot to it

Feel free to message me if you need advice on adoption, mama! You do what’s best for you AND YOUR BABY! There is no wrong answer here

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Adoption for honorable reasons is one of the most selfless acts of love you can provide your child. I don’t see why ppd would affect signing over rights, unless you’re looking for a reason to not follow through with the adoption. I’m sensing hesitation on your part. You need to do some soul searching and determine what you really want/need to do, for both you and the child. I can’t imagine it will be an easy process but it’s necessary.

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Being a mommy that has PCOS and had a really hard time conceiving. I know how much this amazing gift means to her. You are doing something so amazing.

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