I am almost due with my baby boy, and I keep discovering lies that my baby’s father has been telling me throughout our whole relationship. We planned to have our child together and I was very excited because he SEEMED like a very good man and we had been together for a couple of years, so I decided that I was ready to have a child with him… fast forward to me being 8 months along in my pregnancy I discovered he cheated on me… I was absolutely devastated, and I truly believe that I still wouldn’t have known if I stayed off his phone as he wanted but my instincts are always right and I knew that something was off for the past month and I was right, the minute I saw his phone I got all my answers… he obviously was super apologetic towards me and said he would change which he has been, but I’m not sure if it’s just manipulation or if it’s genuine. I do not trust him when he says it only happened once, and with one person, we’re currently separated but still living together, and I’m so torn between working it out or moving with my mom for now. It’s such a tough situation since I’m about to birth my baby so soon. Since finding out about his cheating I just keep coming across more lies that he has told me, such as him only wanting a family with me yet messages between exes say otherwise… he has always had a problem with lying, but I’ve always caught it, but now that I’m discovering more serious lies I wonder if it’s even worth working through, I wanted this family so bad, but he burnt so many bridges with me and him being a pathological liar completely scares me. Would it almost be better to just move out or stay and be a family… I know I want to be the best mom to my son, but I’m afraid that me worrying about my baby dad will distract me from that… I’m only 20 I have no idea what to do
I am pregnant and have been finding out lies about my babies father, I don't know what to do: Advice?
Ultimate betrayal. I’m sorry that happened to you. Although do you really think you’ll ever be able to fully trust or move ahead? Lots wouldn’t. Not me anyways . Hope you find the answers you seek girl
I would go to your family.so you can focus on your baby.
I think when you are young and gonna have a baby, you think no other man will love you. God has a good man for you and He just waiting for you to leave this loser. Do not put him on the birth certificate
Leave him. It may seem hard in the moment but in the end it’s what’s best for you and your child.
Why waste everyone’s time… If you have to ask we all know you ain’t gonna boot him… Stay… They gonna need a clown for the kids b-day parties
Him lying about little things is one thing but turning around and lying about cheating. Nope draw the line there, and along it all you are finding out hes lied about other things. For the sake of your own sanity and for your baby I would move away. Yes he can still.be apart of his sons life.when he straightens himself out but the best thing for you is to move away.
I’ve been in a relationship for 12 years now girl and it’s not easy . I can tell u now tho if he’s lied he’ll do it again. You CAN stay in the relationship, and have drama and argue in front of ur kids and hopefully start again cuz he almost lost u. But it doesn’t mean he won’t if he already has. You can stay and do ur own thing in the relationship too like most ppl (which isn’t really a relationship) for the kids or u can move on. When I was 21 years old and I found out the SAME thing I wished I would have . I was still so young and your probably beautiful still and will find someone to truely respect u starting from scratch
Why do young girls plan for a baby without being married now a days? It’s mind boggling.
Bad blood will always be there. Always. It’s time to leave before your heart gets even more broken.
same thing happened to me but i found out a month after having my daughter. they say they will change but he won’t. i promise. just move in with your mom and co parent. it’s the best for your child and you. wish you the best.
Do you and your kid a favor and move on! I promise you don’t want that headache of trying to raise a child and be a detective all the time over everything he says and does.
Leave him asap. I had the exact same thing happen to me. He kept lying throughout the entire relationship and then became abusive towards me. I wasted 2.5 years of my life being miserable all for the sake of my child. Not worth it
I would be gone. I would not stay with a liar and a cheater. I was divorced at 21 and my son now has a broken heart vs if I had left his father while I was pregnant he wouldn’t be missing the time when we were together because it ultimately didn’t work out anyway.
Go live with your mom , stand up for yourself. Try to stay cordial and let him be involved with the baby but let him feel the pain of missing you.
I would leave so you can focus on being the best mom. If you’re constantly worried/stressed out by him you will not be able to put your best energy in to your son and yourself. I wish you the best! It’s a tough situation but you are young and you will get through it!
Leave. He’s a liar and a cheater. Don’t put yourself through that. It’s way too stressful for you and if you have family that will let you stay with them until you can get on your feet then that’s what I would do. I know that’s hard but he is a liar and if he’s always had issues with lying then it’s not going to stop and I believe once a cheater always a cheater. There’s no reason to keep talking to exes and there’s no reason to cheat, If you’re unhappy you should just leave.
Once the trust is gone thats really hard to get back. I told my husband if I ever find out anything like that I’m just going to leave because for me there’s no coming back from that. I have a hard time trusting people and what’s a relationship without trust? I wouldn’t want to be on my toes all the time or always wondering what he’s doing, where he’s going, who he’s talking to. That’s just too much for me personally.
Sorry you’re going through this and wish you the best
I was married for 8 yrs to someone who lied and cheated, and I never knew because I trusted him. Until the day I caught him, I threw him out and it was the best thing for me and my 2 babies. He is still a liar to this day, 30 yrs later!! You need to do what’s right for you and your baby. The baby comes first. If he truly loves you he will get help and prove it but until then you need to leave and let him fix himself.
Once a cheat always a cheat… Sorry this is happening to you. Ultimately though you have to look out for that precious baby. Do you think you can get passed all the lies and deception? I know I couldn’t if it happened to me. It may be best to move on and not put yourself and baby through that. Tough choices, best of luck!
Honestly, go. If you go through something after baby such as not interested in sexual behaviors, which is common, he can likely do it again because hes not “getting some”. I’m so sorry. Best to leave and be with your mom who will for sure take care of you. He is not worth your time. You will be MUCH happier later.