I am pregnant and my fiance does not want a child: Advice?

You have to make a decision based on what you want. Otherwise you will regret it

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Those who are saying just dump him are being unrealistic. He has every right to say he doesn’t want a child just as she does to decide to keep it. Its ultimately her choice but the decision of coparenting should be a co decision.

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Any child created is a miracle of life. This is totally your choice to choose what you think you should do.

KEEP THE BABY. FORGET HIM you both knew what you was doing and the things it may lead to. If you. We’re a single mom to begin with you can take on another child

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I don’t think that anyone could say anything that would make me kill my unborn child. You already know that you don’t want to. You already know that you will never forgive yourself. What you don’t know is what that man is gonna do 5 years down the road, 2 years, 5 months…or even next week. He might up and be gone tomorrow for all you know. You are both adults. You didn’t force him to help create this child. You both knew the consequences of sex. So how can you even consider allowing HIM to FORCE you to have an abortion? Seriously.

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Honestly in my opinion, you will resent him either way eventually. (Either for him even suggesting it or for you going through with abortion) Better to end the relationship now and decide for yourself about the baby. I don’t particularly think there is a wrong answer whether to keep the baby or not but do it for you and your child not for someone else.

I believe he’s scared give him time he’ll adjust to the ides he’s sounds great! Hell come around. Don’t talk about the baby don’t mention anything just keep it going as normal.

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Get it in Writing with his signature (maybe notarize it) that he doesn’t want the child and leave him.

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Only do want YOU wish to do.

Walk away from this asshole

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He got in bed with you and knew the possible outcomes, it is YOUR choice, although might be a hard one because hes against it, but its your baby mama, make the best choice for YOU🖤 It is selfish of him to help you create life, then demand you take it away, I am so sorry your going through this and I hope you feel 100% with the decision you choose💜

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Perhaps you should cut him loose! Children come first. Fiancé don’t come with a lifetime guarantee!

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:(((Heart breaking . You can’t do just what he wants . He’s worried about finances? Fatherhood? Reasoning why???

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If you decide to have the abortion then what if he suddenly decides you’re too much for him? That guilt will tear you apart inside. A real man would never ask you to do this

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What you chose is between you and God, :heart: but if you are feeling you want this baby go for it. Dad will fall in line for his responsibility or he won’t and that’s his fault.

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Ask yourself what you want?
Then if what you want is to keep the baby, then keep it.
Over time he may come around and be happy about it and we’ll if not you know he wasn’t meant to be.
You’re already a mum to two you have got this!!

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Get present to what you really want and go from there. If you decide to keep it, you must accept that he’s made himself clear so you might lose him. If you decide to have the abortion, it needs to be your choice, otherwise you’ll likely resent him afterwards.

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I’ll keep the baby for you until you’re ready to have him home, because I can promise you, once that baby is born his feelings towards the baby will change, please, oh please I’m begging you do NOT abort the baby, could there be something he may not have told you that he might have in his family or so, schizophrenia, hemophiliac? Etc etc, just a thought.

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He’s obviously not as great as you thought he was unfortunately. True colors come out in the face of adversity. Very simple conversation: we are pregnant. Get on board 100% or get to Steppin.

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Life is a beautiful thing💜

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