I am pregnant and my SO walked out on me: Advice?

My OH has up and walked out on me, and I’m pregnant with our baby I have other kids from the previous relationship, and I am utterly devastated this is something he does every now and then, but I’m afraid this time he won’t come back I know I have kids to look after, and I am doing that, but that doesn’t help in the evening when the kids are in bed I feel so lonely I have no real friends he was everything to me I love him so much I just don’t understand how he can do this he refuses to talk to me at all won’t respond to any means of contact I just don’t know what to do or how I will get over it if he doesn’t come back

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I wouldn’t allow someone in my children’s lives unless they were reliable…think about how that instability affects your children…I get that it hurts, and it’s sucks but sounds like you need to set a major boundary.

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You’re a momma you’ll dust yourself off and be strong because you have to for your babies. Frankly your dude sucks because he should not be putting this kind of stress on you when your pregnant he doesnt sound very reliable. My advice get a MAN someone reliable and stable

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So he does this on occasion? Why would you stay with someone that does that to you and your children. I’m sorry but he’s a loser and you should move forward with your life.

Agree with the others. Dont chase after someone or force them to stay

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I’m sorry. This sucks. Happened 2 me 2 with my very 1st pregnancy. He just was overwhelmed n walked out. Came back when r son was about 2 months old. Did it again when r son was 8 n we also had 2 other small children. That was it 4 me. I divorced him. Never looked back. U can n u will survive.

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If he’s up and done it a few times before he will continue to- if he comes back tell him no thanks I’m good. Zebras don’t change their stripes

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Don’t allow him to come back. You should have to put up with that. And neither should your kids and future child

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What is OH? Is SO significant other? It’s painful reading these sometimes. Can’t we just write what we mean? :joy:

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Honey, dont let him come back. If he can up and just walk out any time and think nothing of it, especially now, hes not reliable, and could and would do it again at ANY time. You deserve better. Your babies deserve better. And you need someone who is steady, dependable, and committed. When and if things go wrong isn’t a reason to leave. It’s then that they should be coming together to fix it instead of running away. If there aren’t issues, then he’s simply making you an option rather than priority. Either way, you deserve better. So demand it. You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. This leaving bologna stops now.

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Let him stay gone. Get help financially from him. Things will be better for your little family with out someone like that. I’ve been there.

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He KNOWS your pregnant and he walked out?? You know the answer. Do you want to live like that the rest of your life? Because he will do it again and again. Don’t put up with that crap. There are many other possibilities in life.

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Don’t allow him back. You and those kids deserve someone stable. You do what you have to do to get through this for yourself and your babies. Focus on you. You’ll be okay.

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If he can walk away from you like that you don’t want him trust me. You can do this on your own I believe in you but please don’t let him come back because he will, but that doesn’t mean that he loves you. You’re worth so much more than that

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Don’t let a man continue to run u over he isn’t worth it if he continues to come back in and out of your life not only yours but the kids as well it’s not healthy for you are . It may be hard in the beginning believe me but you will pick up and make me on I promise u will it will make u a stronger person that what u are now …so u take care of you and your kids and so t let him back in cause he isn’t worth it if he has hurt u once he will hurt u again

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Why would you continue putting your kids through this ? You should think about the kids before yourself. Stop chasing someone that doesn’t want to be kept . Focus on your kids and you will end up finding someone better.

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Don’t allow that back. Allow him to be a dad to his kid(s) if he wants and is fit. But girl DONT settle for a man like that in your life. Especially if it’s something he does. He doesn’t respect you and the sooner you move on the better and healthier that will be. Trust me.

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You’re letting him treat you like a doormat. Let him com

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He is a jerk, and i know this from experience. I was in the same situation years ago, was pregnant with our 2nd child, after 2 yrs. of marriage, didn’t take of either of them. You may be hurting now, but you will survive. You will be better off in the long run.

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I raised my first 3 alone and Minday I’ll have another baby so I’ve been there. If he has done this in the past u shouldn’t have gotten pregnant. I wouldn’t waste my time trying to get him to respond just move on . I rather be alone than have someone do this repeatedly to me and my kids.

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