I am pregnant and not sure who the dad is: Advice?

Guys, I need advice, and I’m kinda ashamed… I was on Mirena. It got moved, and I didn’t realize it. Now I’m pregnant, not sure who the dad is (between my kid’s dad been apart over a year just hooked up after he got out of jail and a coworker). I’m terrified, not sure if I should tell either or just say Idk who the dad is and leave it at that help!!

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Tell em both. You’re grown and so are they!

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Put your big girl pants on and tell both, each have a right to know they might be a dad and the kid has a right too

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be honest and go from there.

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Tell both get DNA test when baby is born

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Be honest from the start. Its scary but it’s honestly the easiest way to go for everyone

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I’d be honest about it. It’s not your fault, you used BC it just happened to fail.

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Well you kinda did that to yourself now you have to woman up and tell. Nothing wrong with sleeping around but when it ends in pregnancy you will have to tell your sex partners

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I also went through not knowing and told both it was a possibility. My husband (then boyfriend on and off) decided he was going to be a dad to him either way, while the other possibility decided he wanted nothing to do with him either way. We eventually did a DNA test at 2 years and he is biologically (my husbands) but we weren’t 100% til then. Just like we have choices so do they, but make sure they both know so they can decide what they want. Hope everything turns out well!!! And congratulations!!!

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Someday that child is gona wanna know who its father is… and if it’s just a choice between 2 guys then there is no reason not to find out

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Best idea is to let them both know and then do a paternity test after the baby is born. If you don’t tell them ahead of time, then you’re going to blind side them after baby is born when you request paternity testing to find out who dad is. Not finding out who dad is isn’t fair to the father of the child.

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been there. be honest. tell them both. do DNA when the baby is born. nobody can fault you for being honest

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Tell them both be honest about the situation then get a DNA test

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You can do a DNA test while pregnant, it would definitely ease your mind knowing who the baby belongs too

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Honestly, I would wait to tell them. At least until after the first trimester when you’re risk of miscarriage decreases… either way don’t keep it from them, just tell them. Then go from there.

Yes tell them both and be honest that you don’t know who the father is. This happened to me when I was pregnant with my first son. I told both and then did a dna test when he was born.

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Be honest and tell both of them… No judgment… but just because you’re on birth control you still have to take precautions with whom you have sex with… You could have contracted a sti or something… You wanna sleep around… Go right on ahead lol but just take care of yourself and protect yourself from everything.

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Be responsible and own up to your part. Advise the dads to prepare them to take dna test’s.

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Honesty is best in this situation

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Be straight up with both of them. It’s an honest mistake! Plenty of people have sex with multiple people in a short period when they are single it’s totally not something to be ashamed of!

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