I am pregnant and the father is denying the baby: Advice?

Hey, ladies, sorry its a bit long, but I’m really at a loss right now. I’m 21 weeks with my third son! His brothers and I are thrilled! I am a single mother, but I bust my ass, so my boys want for nothing, while also attending school part-time. When I found out I was pregnant, it was a complete shock because I was on birth control. When I told his father, he responded with, “I don’t think I can even have kids,” yeah, okay, I’m pregnant!! Anyways he ended up blocking me on everything! He got ahold of me around ten weeks wanting a booty call, and of course, I went off a little bit… just a little. My oldest son’s father pays child support (actually only for two months last year, and he’s 7!). My middle son’s father is dead. And I’m not going to lie; child support would be very helpful for this man! But IDK if I want him in my son’s life. A week after he hit me up, his new GF and he announced (with an ultrasound) they were pregnant, so I’m pretty sure he knew when he got a hold of me. She’s due a month after me. He’s “so excited and can’t wait for July” it really hurts. He denies our son. They started dating three days after I found out I was pregnant (i told him the day I found out) we weren’t anything and we both knew it. We hooked up twice, but now we have a baby. I just don’t know if I should even get him involved once the baby is born. My mom told me to test him and let him make his decision. But I feel like he already has made his choice.

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If you have to decide if you want child support or not. Child support, then yes… pursue it, but be willing to have him in your child’s life and have visitation. If you don’t want child support, then let it be.

He was obviously dating you both and doesn’t want the other baby mama to know he was stepping out

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I would just move on. Get ready for your little one and leave the trash behind.

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I would take him to court. They will require a paternity test and he will have to pay child support. He probably won’t ask for any parenting time from the sounds of it, and if he does then you guys can figure it out through mediation.

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Your future child has a right to know so take the test

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If he wants to deny your child and you don’t need the child support then. Good ridence. It’s not worth the hurt it will continue to cause you or your children

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Still test him. He should help pay for his child regardless

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Your son deserves to be supported financially. Its not about you.

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There’s dna blood testing you can do while pregnant. Insurance probably won’t cover it. Even if you brought him for child support they would do free DNA testing right there.
Either way no matter what choices he has made he still has the right to know and be part of his sons life if he wants too

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I’d take him for support. But that’s just me

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File for child support, the state will do dna testing and start to enforce child support from your first borns father as well. These men think its okay to get their pp wet and have no consequences for abandoning their children. File for sole custody so he doesn’t have to deal with a child he doesnt want, but still has to be just as responsible financially as you do. It takes 2 to make a baby, it should take 2 to financially support it.

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Paternity test r very expense
Hes not going to be any kind if father to ur baby
All u can get is child support
For that u will have to put him on birth certificate
I for one would rather not deal with him at all. Dont put anyone on birth certificate

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If the father is denying he is the father, let him be. Just list you as the only parent so he can’t try to fight for the kid later down the road. It’s best that way

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Depending on what state you live in, they may make you file for child support anyway. That’s what happened to me when I had my daughter and the father didn’t want her. He moved out of state to avoid it so he wasn’t on the birth certificate. But I had to file by law anyway and they tracked him down. He pays child support now but has never met her. He didn’t show up for court to do paternity so it defaulted to him. He won’t have a choice

Child support court. That doesn’t grant him visitation. Just bc he’s a dick doesn’t mean you should support the child solely on your own. It’s up to him if he wants to be in the kids life or not. But he also has a sibling with his dads gf, he should
Get a chance to know the siblings

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Child support has absolutely nothing to do with custody. He should help financially. I’ve learned you can’t force someone to be a parent. My ex left when my children were 3 & 1. They are now 6 & 4. Since leaving, he hasn’t paid for anything. He barely sees them, he hasn’t seen them for a solid 9 months now. He doesn’t call to check in or anything. At this point, he really doesn’t know my children. After 3 years, I have a court date for child support. And I’m debating if I want to go through with it or cancel & be done.

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For the other child that has a father that has passed he should be getting survivors benefits and as for the other two you need to pursue child support

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I’d take him for support especially since it sounds like he wont be there but atleast it will benefit you. Then after he isnt there file for abandonment and still get child support.

Send the paternity paperwork after birth, file for child support, and go on with your life. If he wants custody, he can file for that.

Congrats on your new addition!

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He doesn’t get to just have kids and then decide he wants nothing to do with them. Doesn’t work that way. He needs to step up and at least help raise this kid financially. Ur struggling while he’s living his happy life with his gf and new baby…don’t think so.

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