I am pregnant with my 3rd and having major anxiety: Advice?

I have two kids, ages 7 and 5. I am 35 years old and am pregnant with our third child. I am having such bad anxiety about having a third. I am keeping thinking about our jobs, balancing life, three college tuitions, three weddings, a newborn baby, breastfeeding, etc. I keep thinking we should have just stayed with two. I know we can’t go back, but why am I so worried? I know I will love this baby but I am very scared and worried.

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I haven’t got 3, but I just went from one to two. And the worry and anxiety had me a mess through my whole pregnancy. The guilt I felt for my daughter who is 4 now, was the most overwhelming thing I’ve ever felt in my life. His 5 months old now, and we’re still finding a balance. Some days are bad, but we’re getting more and more happy days. Congratulations and I hope you get the advice you need x

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Same boat 3rd and I’m 31 anxiety has been really bad this time. Your only given what you can handle life works itself out exactly how it’s ment your just a bad ass momma girl chin up ya got this :heartbeat::muscle::clap:

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My first born were twins, 18 years ago. I had all the same worries… I did get through it, without my family, and I had post-partum depression before I knew what it was. I’m not really sure how I managed. I’ve had 2 more after that… 4 kids total. A lot of worry. The only advice I can give, is to take each day as it is. Make it through that day, deal with the tomorrow’s when they come, or when you’re ready to deal with them. They’re a long way off from a wedding, and college. When your 3rd isnt a newborn, it will be easier for you. Then you’ll have a bit more time to think of the future. For now, think of the present. And if you need help, please ask for it. Either family, or community services. Talk to your Dr. :heart:

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I have three kids and I don’t find it much more difficult than having two kids. My big kids were 9 and 7 when I had my third and I was 37. The third was easier in a lot of ways - I was more mature and I also just enjoyed it more. I didn’t freak out as much as I did when I was a less experienced mother and my third kid is such a go with the flow guy! Not to mention, I got a lot of help (and still do) from the bigs with the baby. My kids are 18, 16, and almost 10 now. It is hard to balance sports and extracurriculars, but it is hard to do that with just two!! You will do fine and you will never regret adding another love to your family! I think 2020 is just freaking us all out and giving us all major anxiety - big life changes are hard to tackle in this climate.

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I’m 34 and on #7! (And yes I know how birth control works :joy: got pregnant with the nexplanon this time around :expressionless:)
Stop worrying aboit THAT far into the future. You never know what life will throw at you.

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I have 3 the last was a surprise, it’s pretty easy going and you need to not live in the future live in the now

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I was the same way with my 3rd and in the beginning it was a little stressful. Things definitely cost more now, mostly the grocery bill :sweat_smile: but I’m not at all worried about weddings or college now, it’s way too far out for me to worry about I got asses to wipe :joy: seriously though, it will all work out fine :two_hearts:

1 to 2 was tough. 2 to 3 is not anywhere near as hard.

I tried to make sure that the older two were involved. We always called the baby “their” baby too. (Can you get your baby a diaper, I think your baby is cold, can you get her a blanket, etc). The feeling that they were a part of it made it much easier for them.

Youll be all good!

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When your feeling over whelmed just take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Remind yourself its okay. Its okay. Its okay. It’s okay to feel worried and nervous but don’t let it consume you. Life has a funny way of just working things out. I also got horrible anxiety with my 3rd. I’m using the breathing technique to help me relax. It will all just come natural just like the first 2 times around.

I was the same way when I was pregnant with my second. Once the baby is here it will change. You will find that balance just give it time.

I have no advice, just here to say you aren’t alone. Currently pregnant with number 3 and all up in my feelings too

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Just live your present and give the best to your kids every single day, future is uncertain and what they need right now is the joy and love of you! YOU ARE A SUPER WOMEN, EMPOWER YOUR SELF WITH POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF :heartbeat:

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I have 6 living 1 angel. I can only hope they go the college path, but if they don’t there are still great careers out there without a college education. Thinking about the future is more along the lines i raise healthy adults that have morals and achieve greatness by not becoming a holes and not ending up in prison or become drug addicts or the like there of. I believe in them. My 5 year old is so interested in the human body and helping others. She plays doctor all the time. Im just encouraging her and there are so manybcareer paths she could take with that. My oldest is 14 and likes to tinker with things, taking them apart and hes very detailed. I could easily see him in a computer field. Empower them, don’t sweat the small stuff. You got this.

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I just had my 3rd, a surprise, and I was 42! He is the sweetest little guy I could have asked for! Worrying is natural, we all worry. However, in the end, it all works out!

If you’re early enough along, you can have an abortion. If that’s not an option, adoption.

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You will be fine. I had a 3 kids by 35 years old. My two oldest were the same age as yours when my son came. I felt the same way while I was pregnant. Once he was born I went into momma mode. Everything will fall into to place. The first couple months were hard but if you have a supportive SO then you will be fine. My children are 27, 25 and 18. Two graduated college and one more to go. Lol good luck!!

I went from having one child for 13 years to marrying a man who had two sons. We became pregnant with our first one and I did the same thing. I had one child for 13 years and now suddenly we have four! My anxiety was through the roof. But it passes in time. Mine just seemed to vanish once our son was born. I just knew that God has given us this baby and he would also give us a way to do everything else.

I’m 34+4 weeks with my third and I’m 33 yes old. My older kids are 6+5 and having another is scary. BUT I’m choosing to think of all the best things that come with having a baby and focusing on that. We have so many happy memories from our older kids as babies and we can’t wait to experience those special moments again with our new baby🤗

I’m 37 and having number three at the end of the month and my older 2 are 3 years and 16 months so I’ll have 3 aged 3 and under. Don’t stress too much it is probably just because of the age gap between the kids. Just work to stay calm everything will be fine

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