I am scared this guy won't like me because I have a limp: Advice?

I am meeting this guy soon. I have mentioned to him that I have a limp he’s all ok with it, but I am scared if I should really meet him or not like most of the guys I always met never kept in contact with me after they we met even though they also said they were all fine now I’m thinking if I should take a video and send it to him instead so that I don’t go through the trauma of being disappointed once again

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I would mention it briefly and answer any questions.

My heart breaks for you, I too walk with a limp and have a cane due to several leg fractures and permanent hardware inserted to keep me mobile. All I can say is that if he has a problem with it then he is superficial and you don’t deserve that kind of mistreatment in a potential life partner. I suppose you could explain but personally I don’t feel like you should have to. It took me several years to be okay with the fact that I walked differently than other people but if they are going to judge you for something so insignificant in regards to your entire being then they’re not worth your time or heartache!

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I think taking a video would be better then doing it in person. That way you both are on the same page. People can be pretty vain, so it is better to get it out of the way before meeting in person.

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If it’s not okay with them, that shows their character, not yours. The right one will find you perfect how you are. Push that :crown: up :kissing_heart:

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I limp due to my pelvic being out of line. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and he just now brought it up to me the other day and asked why I always limped. I didn’t realize it was that noticeable. He’s good with it though.

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I have a limp and my husband could care less. I also told him before we met and it didn’t bother him one bit. If it does bother this guy he may not be right for you

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Go and be yourself and shine, you told him about it, he’s okay with it then he’s not worth your time

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Then you have not met your lobster… (mates for life) forget sending him a video. Meet him in person and go from there. Just keep being you! :tornado::earth_americas::smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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Just meet him! If he is the right one he will like you for YOU. You need to find that person you can be 100% vulnerable with.

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The real man for you wont care what you look like sweetie :blush:

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Those other guys suck. This might be one of the good guys! Meet him and be yourself. Rejection hurts for sure… BUT what if this is the guy who will love everything about you? And honestly, I think you would be just as hurt if he decided not to go out with you because of a video. At least in person he can see you are more than girl with a limp.
Oh! And be confident even if you have to fake it lol! Good luck! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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It’s possible that you are projecting your insecurity as their motive. Lots of people go on dates then ghost the other person. Stop assigning motives unto others. You’ll be happier for it.

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I’d be sarcastic about it. That’s just my personality. If you look at it negatively and always focus on it, they will too! It’s part of who you are so there’s that. I have flaws about myself that I don’t like but my personality makes up for it and I try not to focus on those flaws!

I have spina bifida and scoliosis. That’s never prevented me from finding someone who loves me for me. We all are flawed in our own ways…it’s how we present ourselves. We attract what we see in ourselves. Be yourself and be real. The right one will embrace all of you.

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If he decides he doesn’t like you because of a limp, he’s a chump anyways. You go get your free dinner girl :smirk:

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This is what I like to call the trash taking itself out. If you are meant to be with someone, they will love you no matter what. I can imagine it’s super tough to go through it, but at the same time, it’s better to not waste your time on someone who doesn’t love you for who you are.

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Don’t send the video. You’re practically setting yourself for failure. They guy is going to think is she so insecure that she has to send me a video. Don’t think about the possible negative outcome. He will stay with you if he has a good heart. If he leaves then it shows he was not going to be a good person. Just let the doors keep opening for you. Don’t be discouraged. I’m sure you will find someone that cares more for feelings than looks. We are all God’s creation so we are all beautiful. Hey I’ve accepted I’m not 104 lbs anymore. I’m 177 lbs and short. Yet, I know I have a lot to offer the world. God put me on this planet for a purpose and I’m going to focus on that instead of my flaws. I love my husband and he’s tall, chubby, and 240 lbs. If someone is going to love you they are going to accept you how you are.

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You only know you. If you’re at a point where you are tired of showing up only to be disappointed later then do the video. Obviously you are more than just a limp and anyone worthy of you will see that. However, I can see where you are coming from with the disappointment time after time. But if you do the video don’t just do a walk to show your limp. While walking talk about you, what you like, the side of you that’s more than the limp. :star_struck::smiley: Good luck!

If you’re scared that he won’t like you because of who you are, then fuck that nigga! He ain’t worth your time if you think he’s that shallow to judge you based on who you are.