Am I wrong for really beginning to hate my mother in law? My husband and I have been together for 11 years I have two daughters who are now 20, and 13 and my husband has a son who is 14… girls are mine biologically and is his biologically. Mother in law has not excepted my kids from day 1. Never has taken them overnight buys stuff for boy and completely forgets about girls. She has told me that they are not her blood, and she will never bond with them as she does her grandson. It’s getting old she won’t come to the girl’s birthdays but will the boys… Both of my daughters hate her for the way she has treated them, and so do I. My husband has tried to talk to her many times, but now my daughters or I really don’t want anything to do with her. I love my husband but hate my mother in law is this normal.
I don’t know if hate is good to carry. I’d personally stop having expectations and do what makes your family happy. Stay blessed dear
Sad situation but just accept it for what it is and move on, theres no changing it. Its been 11 years already. Your entitled to feel how u feel.
Don’t worry about her. Make sure you keep her away from your home and your kids. I would not even bother.
It’s been a long 34 years for me. It’s hard but you just have to let it go. I finally did and am so much happier.
Stop inviting her. To the girls n boys parties. Stop accepting gifts for the boys if she’s not got anything for the girls Stop allowing her to take just the boy to do things if the girls aren’t included. Stop allowing her to do this to your girls. Cut her out if she can’t grow up and treat the kids as equals.
You and the girls just stay away from her.
Her behavior is HORRIBLE but she is your husband’s mom. Try to keep your distance from the mean old thing but don’t hate. It only harms you and your girls.
Just stop inviting her…
Tell her to ring before she comes over. And then say sorry you are busy if the boys are happy visiting her. Limit the visits to once a month… .if she buys the boys gifts ? they have to stay at her house. Quietly out her out of family events.
Just treat her like the bitch she is…
I’m a step grand parent and I love all my grandkids equally… blood or not. They other grandparents dont… so I told them off. And they have to have the boys at their place to open gifts. So that the girls dont Miss out. Anyone who treats kids differently.
Dont deserve to grand parents.
And remind her blood doesnt make a family , love does.
Just cut her off.
How can you not feel hate when she does that to your daughters. Keep her as far as possible. People like that will rarely change, and really, it’s not worth you feeling hate. Tell her you’ll pray for her so that maybe someday that bitterness will leave her soul.
She’s not worth y’all hating her. Hate will just hurt you. Her loss … disassociate yourself from her, stop inviting her to events and move on. Let her visit with her grandson but make it clear to the girls that they should not expect anything from her and move on
It is either ALL the kids or none … do not accept anything given or done for the boys, if the same is not on offer for the girls.
Your girls are 13 and 20 do they really care ?
Her behavior is unacceptable for sure, but be careful you aren’t projecting negative feelings you actually have towards your husband for clearly not taking a stand on behalf of ALL of his kids—especially your daughters—by denying his mother access to any of them if they are all not treated equally. I’m confused why she’s even still allowed at birthday parties and such if she only recognizes the son and not your daughters. My anger would be more focused on my husband perhaps…he’s the one that should be the protector of your family as it relates to his mom. Think about that a bit…
Set a good example for your daughters and just stay clear of her love your daughters in time they will get it what goes around comes around this mother in law is the loser your not shell paying the end good luck
I agree all or none. But that could hurt the boy. Id tell her she can call and see him but any gifts can be an account she sets up and gives him at a later date or something. You cant make her love the girls. You can however choose how much she is in your life. Talk to your husband about it of course. Does he want to do anything? If he wants to hold gifts from his son until his mother acts right that would be better. Its a tough one. Letting go may be the best option. Just love your family and ignore her 🤷
Boys should see that respect is needed for his sisters or respect is not given to his grandmother, your MIL
Shes doing it on purpose to get yr reaction… I’d basically just have nothing to do with her …
Don’t let her be involved with the other either! My sister in law tried pulling this crap however my baby is her brothers child and his other kids with his ex she watched and had all the time and my daughter never! I cut ties real quick and now she’s involved! Speak your mind show your strength and don’t let her walk all over you
I agree! I have a “ step grandson”. That I totally accept as our grandson he’s one of ours totally. How do you do that to a child that doesn’t understand ? We have accepted him as our own and no questions asked he thinks we are his grandparents and we just love him so much !!!