I am starting to resent my husband: Advice?

I’m started to get resentful towards my husband and Idk what to do. I don’t even know how to put it into words, but I just cry all the time, and I’m always so angry now. Has anyone else gone through this?

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Try to put your feeling down on paper and then talk to him… as honestly as you can about your feelings.

Is there anymore to this?? Like u just had a baby? Or a change in jobs or living situation? Have u been married long?

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This is very vague, so it is hard to give advice. Is there a reason behind the resentment? Is he doing something in particular? Are you going through something?

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Hit up mylovethinks. Its helped me so much.

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Depends on what’s causing it

Yes it’s normal sometimes our expectations are too high for example I used to compare my husband with my father in certain aspects but it’s wrong at the end of the day as our husbands try their best everyday sometimes we get too impatient in the way they do and think about things but wat I’ve learnt is that no one is perfect and that we should have patience with each other different strokes for different folks this is my experience

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Don’t weigh everyone down with too much information here

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I think you suffer from depression

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I think you’d need to figure out why you’re resenting him to figure out how to fix the problem.

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Write it down. Sort out ur thoughts. Spend a weekend away from him. Do stuff for just YOU.
Why are u starting to resent him? What changes happened? How is he treating you? How are YOU treating HIM?
Have u two spoken about the feelings your having?

Open the line of communication - there HAS to be an underlying reason for the resentment? Financial burdens, not equal load sharing? fears of rejection - TALK - communicate!!

Yes!! I recommend couples counseling and trying to find things that you two enjoy together.

After having my daughter, I couldn’t even look at my husband. I damn near hated hated him. I was angry, sad, emotional… you name it. I was suffering from postpartum depression. Once I got help, those feeling went away. I will
Never understand the pressures my husband has to face and he will never fully understand what it’s like to be a mom. But you have to have empathy.
Depression gets in the way of that. I would speak to your doctor, seek a professional therapist, and take care of YOUR mental health. Once you are okay, your marriage and your life will be too. Your husband needs to take care of his mental health as well. I wish you the best.

Writing could help. Maybe a pros/cons list will help you see whats really bothering you. Dont be scared to be petty w it for yourself. Ive been in a situation where the little stuff got to be so many little things got me being constantly angry and made the little huge to me. If the pros and cons thing dont work, there are relationship journals that have topics to provoke your thoughts. I put the pro con list as a text to myself so when something would catch my attention good or bad i would be able to add it in the moment. After a couple days or week i took a look at the collections of notes and had a talk. Things got better. Goodluck!

U know what helps me? I started going to therapy and keeping a journal.

Yeah. It happens.

  1. Make sure you’re still having sex.
  2. Therapy
  3. Tell him you’re feeling resentful and why. Mine is always tied to a reason (you don’t do this for me, you make me mad when) telling him is better than living with it silently.

Ugh… way too vague of a post… But perhaps he resents you too. Especially if this is how vague you are in day to day life…

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Got married in July and yesterday realized I don’t know why I married him. Used to think I was in love with him but after moving into a new house we can’t afford and buying new things he had to have while I go without I’m not sure I ever loved him. We spend almost no time together and when we do we are fighting or sitting silently while I fill out job applications (because all of a sudden my job that supported us for almost 8 months after he quit his job for no reason) isn’t good enough and I have to get a real job or risk us all being homeless. But it goes both ways. I know he is only with me because we have a child together and he doesn’t want me to take full custody since he screwed up so badly with his other kids.

Talking to him is the only way out.