I am supposed to get married in 3-months but don't know if I want too: Help?

I don’t feel happy in my relationship anymore. We have two beautiful kids together, and he has always been so amazing to my previous marriage children. But for us, well, its slowly going downhill. We are supposed to be married in just three months. But I wanna leave altogether. We seem to be pulled way apart from each other, and it is not getting better. He is a good man. But I am done fighting over everything I bring up. I am always wrong. I don’t feel good enough for anything anymore, not a mom or a friend or a daughter, let alone being his wife. I don’t have a way out. I love him, but I’m unhappy now. Please. I need advice. What do I do?

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Dont do it…if your having doubts, dont do it!

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Go to counseling. See if you can work it out in a safe place. If not then leave.

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I would try out counseling. Read the five love languages together.

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Leave. You don’t have to do anything unless you want to. Have you tried communicating with him about how you feel ?

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Don’t get married. Leave.

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If in doubt…don’t. Hold off and think on such a commitment…I cried all the way down the isle…marriage didn’t last a year. I didn’t run when I needed to. I didn’t take time to understand my doubts. That was many moons ago and an adult child who was brainwashed against me as time passed.

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Postpone the wedding and go to counseling. If counseling doesn’t work, then don’t get married. Never settle!

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That’s something you need to sit down and discuss with your significant other. You cannot keep those kind of feelings bottled up because ‘there is no way out’ … because there is. & you shouldn’t wait until it really is too late. If you’re having those feelings maybe he is too & even if he isn’t - it still needs to be addressed. I wish you and your family the best :heart::heart: keep your head up.

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I won’t say end it but don’t get married if there is any doubt.

If your feeling like this. Call it off. You deserve happy and so does the kids

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Talk to him… Maybe he feels the same way. I don’t believe you should stay with someone because there are kids involved, but since there are kids, counseling might be a good way to go, and postpone the wedding… At least try to fix it before you give up, and if you can’t fix it, then hey. You tried your hardest. Good luck, I hope you find your happiness.

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Sounds like you might be having some personal issues, as well as relationship issues. Go to counseling, individually and with your fiance.

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At least postpone the wedding until you have time to try work it out or leave

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not supposed to have doubt in your mind walking down the aisle. or u will regret it so dont do it. your gut is your answer. if u feel like all of this wont matter in a couple of years dont do it and leave.

Do not marry him in this situation.

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Don’t do it. Life is short

Don’t marry someone you aren’t happy with, don’t get married.

Do not get married!! I had the same thoughts and did it anyway and now I’m divorced with a narcissistic co-parent to deal with, and most of the debt from our marriage. Do not do it if you have a single second thought. Try counseling or talking to him or just start putting $ aside to get out. But whatever you do…DO NOT GET MARRIED! Escaping becomes even harder when you’re legally strapped to him.

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Don’t settle for less then what ur worth! Don’t do it for the kids ! Don’t want ur kids to grow up seeing u unhappy just to have them in same house w there dad I been i ur shoes and I finally left and happier then I been in a while. And my kids are happy to

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