I am thinking about calling of my wedding due to my fiances drinking problem: Advice?

I am supposed to get married in less than two months, and I am thinking about canceling and leaving him. We have been together for five years, and He has a drinking problem. When he drinks, he says a lot of awful things to me and makes me feel worthless, and then the next day, when he is sober, he says he didn’t mean any of them. This has been ongoing for five years, and I’ve stuck with him for the past two because of our daughter. He always “quits” and then starts back up a few weeks or a month later, and I’m not sure what to do at this point. I am at my breaking point, and idk whether to believe him this time and go through with the marriage and hope for the best for our family or not.

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Been there, get out NOW!

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It’s not going to get better 5 years is enough

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I would leave and take your child hes not gonna change you need to do whats best for you and your child before anything else happens other than him just saying stuff that makes you feel that way

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The most honest people are kids, people who are angry and people who are drunk. Not worth it.

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There’s not a shot in hell I would marry him until he had completed rehab and had a solid period of sobriety under his belt. Alcoholism is a progressive disease and until he acknowledges the problem and gets the help he needs, I would get myself and my child out of there

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Absolutely call it off, it will never change unless he stops drinking!! I definitely know this as fact!!

Drunk words are sober thoughts. Period. If he is abusive while drunk, he is abusive. Alcohol doesn’t change your personality, your the same person just less inhibitions.

Do not enter into a marriage with issues like that. They need to be completely resolved before you entire into a marriage covenant.

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Get out while you can!

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In my experience, the things people say when they’re drunk are very much the things they think when they’re sober, but the alcohol gives them the courage to say them. I would leave. Don’t get yourself into a situation where you feel stuck. It will only cause resentment and deteriorate your sense of self-worth. You need to be building that up, especially since you have a little girl watching the everything you do.

Been there. Done that for 18 years. Didnt ever improve. Walk away hunny and save yourself some heartache.

He won’t change. Cut your losses, take your child and leave.

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Throw the whole man out and move on because doesn’t sound like a real man and been going on 5 years run you’ve waisted enough time on his ass

It will get worse you have to decide whether it is worth being with him because he wont change if he hasnt in the last 5 yrs.

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Get out now!!! RUN AND DON’T EVER GO BACK!!!

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Leave for the 2 months no contact nothing. You will get your answer.

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Bye bye. Unless you want to live the rest of your life in this pattern.

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You already know the answer.

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Run I’m in the same situation, I’m married to him and it’s awful. I’m depressed. It feels toxic to me and my kids