I am thinking about calling of my wedding due to my fiances drinking problem: Advice?

I would call it off. Ended an almost 20 year relationship because of his “occassional meth use”. Well it never got better. When I had my daughter I knew I and she deserved better. I left when she was 2. She is now 5 and we are doing just fine

Run away. Don’t walk.

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It’s not gonna stop :pensive:
I was with my current roomate as partners for five years, same thing, when she would drink she hated me and said so many ugly things, fast forward 10 years we stayed friends but now even as friends living separate lives I seem to be the target of her anger and hatred. It’s not gonna stop. Rip it like a bandaid and end it because it’s just not gonna stop, you staying all this time has him believing you will never leave so again it will never stop. #Fuckalcoholism

No dont marry him he’s not going to quite its gonna get worse

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Leave a person doesn’t need to live their life in that kind of thing you know by now he isn’t going to straight up

Be an example for your daughter. Don’t stay in a toxic relationship.

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Drunk words are sober thoughts. leave before he hurts one of you.

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Happened 10 years to me. I’m now happy to not get dealt that abuse weekly.

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The saying “ a drunks words are sober thoughts”

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Oh please get out. My mom married an alcoholic. I am now a grown adult. It was horrible.

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Run and if you have family stay with them

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Don’t marry him unless he stops drinking for at least a year and agrees to marriage counseling and AA during that time also. Then make it clear that if he starts drinking again in the future you will not stick around. Prayers you deserve better and you don’t want your daughter to think a man should treat her that way when she grows up.

Plleeaassee call it off, from someone who lived this for 7.5 years

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You know him the best just because you get married will not change him he’s been this way for five years that yall been together marriage is not going to change that

Always go with your gut. Every time I’ve ignored that nagging feeling I come to regret it in a big way. You already know the answer to your question. hugs

DONT DO IT! LEAAAVE!!! Please! It will only get worse! Save yourself and your heart and your sanity! Please just go. Dont look back! You will find someone better!

Don’t marry him if he has an addiction, trust me it isn’t worth it! That’s completely disrespectful how he talks to you and treats you while drinking. If he was truly sorry he wouldn’t continue to say those things every time he drinks, and trust me he will not stop drinking until HE wants to it doesn’t matter how much you cry, beg or plead him to stop. He will not stop until he is ready, if I were you I wouldn’t marry him.

Just know that not everyone is like that and you can be much happier, and you aren’t stuck anywhere :heart:

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I was in the same situation but was already married. I let all the red flags slide. I had a friend tell me that’s it’s better for kids to come from a broken home rather than to live in one. That really struck a cord with me. And I made the hard decision to leave. I don’t regret that decision.

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Know your worth! Don’t settle if you’re not happy…

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