I am thinking of reporting my neighbors: Thoughts?

My neighbor’s daughter is almost five and still in diapers. We recently moved in, so we just met them. My three-year-old daughter likes to talk to her through the privacy fence. The thing is, she seems pretty normal other than being very overweight. She talks, although she engages in behavior, I would not allow my daughter to take part in. (She plays very rough) I thought maybe the diaper was because she needed one, who am I to judge. Then that all changed when I had to knock on their front door for something one day. Their porch was littered with tons of cigarette butts and beer cans all over the porch and ground. Their house reeked from the front lawn. There are several large dogs they breed that is usually left outside in the back yard. I know the dad works on cars for a living, and I am trying so hard not to judge the mess. We live right across the street from a park in a very nice neighborhood, and their home is the only one to look like this. I can see their TV from my kitchen window, and it is on cartoons 24/7. I have never seen it turn off. The child is also not involved in any school or program, and the dad blames it on her not being potty trained. My husband and I have sat on our deck at night and just listened to these blood-curdling screams from their house, I have no idea why, and my daughter screams and throws fits that sound just awful sometimes so I have never judged a screaming kid. Now that you have a little bit of back story: is it wrong that I am contemplating reporting them? Or just having someone go check on that little girl and her older brothers? I just want to know she is ok.

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You could call in a welfare check maybe? Say your concerned for their safety, but unsure if whatbyour hearing is an upset child or someone doing something wrong to the child

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You are a mother yourself. If you’ve seen this-report it.

Sounds like this girl is being neglected. And she needs to go to a loving family!
So you’re not wrong!

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No harm in making sure the children are ok.

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A welfare check is never a bad idea, I’ve done it before

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Dont never second guess yourself when it comes to a childs protection or safety. Something could b really wrong and u just saved that little girl. Do NOT feel guilty for making sure

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Honestly you don’t know if she had medical issues or anything. And just because cartoons are on doesn’t mean they are actually watching them. And some people are just messy, as long as the kids are fine I don’t see an issue with it. And some kids are just late on potty training. I wouldn’t report unless you really think there’s something wrong, but it’s really none of your business

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A 5 year old should be potty trained and if not the parents should be working hard to do what needs to be done to teach and develop those habits

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i would
do a welfare check-
one outcome is that you’ve assumed wrong, another outcome being you potentially saved a child(ren) from a bad environment; whatever it may be, i’m sure calling for a welfare check will help you sleep better at night!

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Call and have them do a welfare check please!

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U could walk over there and get to know them

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The little girl could have a mental illness or something of that sort as well and that may be the reason for the diapers and odd behavior.

But I also don’t think that calling in a welfare check would be a bad idea. At least then the authorities can check into the well-being of the child.

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I would definitely report that

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My rule. If it’s not neglect or abuse you’ve witnessed first hand… mind your own business!

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Just call for a wellfair check.

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Something is off try talking to them see if they are ignorant and lack of a family to help them but sounds not good thanks for caring

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You can be anonymous when you call in for a welfare check… doesnt mean the parents wouldn’t then be completely on their guard and start blaming anyone and everyone but at least they would never be told who it actually was unless you told them.

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At least do a welfare check just to make sure and maybe they can help the family out they don’t want to take kids and they can help family’s that are struggling maybe they need some extra help

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I think it’s extremely valid. If everything checks out ok, that’s great, but if something bad were to happen and you didn’t report them, you’d feel so guilty for forever. I say YES, please do!

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For someone who says “who am I to judge” but calls a 5 yr old extremely over weight and JUDGING because shes still in diapers, baffles me. Do you know if she has a medical condition? Who gives a shit if their tv is on cartoons all the time. Sounds to me like you’re looking for any reason to bash these people. Instead of judging them, have you asked them if they need any help? Try being a friend to them and not judge judy. Good lord.