I am trying to find the motivation to go to school: Advice?

So I am a SAHM. I’m 22 with a two-year-old and pregnant with my second child. My living situation is stressful. My family and I have been bouncing house to house. We can’t get comfortable anywhere due to complications. Lately, the school has been heavy on my mind. My husband works throughout the week and gets one to two days off. I need some advice or motivation. I know there are other mothers that are or have been through this. And I just need light out of this dark tunnel.

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First, I would say go to school for sure. There are many degree programs online and you can get loans to go to school. Yes, it was hard to have my kids and go to school, but I dont regret it.

Second, you guys have to get stable. You need that security for all of you.

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You are still young absolutely do it!! I’m about to be 35 and my biggest regret is not getting my degree…also it’s a sacrifice now that will pay off later and help you and your family to get out of the situation you’re in and help with a stable future for you and your children :white_heart:

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You can do anything you put your mind to. It’s going to be hard, but it’s totally worth it. I was 26 and single when I was in your shoes. I spent 4 years working full time, while taking a full load of classes and being a single mom with little to no support. It was hard, but it was so worth it. Another two years later and I’ll be graduating in May with an MBA. The quality of life I’ve been able to give myself and my daughter is so much better than I ever could have without school.

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I am in classes to get my ged rn I work as a nanny for 4 kids plus my own and still make the time to at least get on a zoom call for 2 hrs a week

I would say don’t take on more than you can handle. Maybe try one class and see how it goes. Slow and steady wins the race.

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I have a 2 year old and 6 months old. I am a SAHM for about a year and I am ok with it. I had to get used to it but having a schedule helps. What days i will do crafts, baking, nothing, play with their toys, go outside. Keep it easy and dont pressure yourself too much. You also have to remember to look after yourself and your home. Id say stay at home for at least a few years and when they go to school, you could also go to school

It’s so hard, you have to dig deep and understand that it’s going to be a challenge for you and your family. You’re going to be sacrificing time with your littles. I worked full time overnights on the opposite schedule of my husband and went to school for nursing and just graduated last month. I had many MANY instances of being so stressed out and wanting to quit but I knew that in the long term this would help secure my family’s future and I’m so glad I persevered. I would shoot for community colleges to keep cost low. Look for scholarships because there are tons out there you can apply for

I have an 8 year old, a one year old, and I work part time. I start part time college, 2 classes, next week! Start with 1 or 2 classes and go from there.

Darling I’ll be 22at the end of Feb, I’m currently pregnant with my 2nd baby due may 10th and I have a 20month old toddler who will be 2 at the end of May… I’m in college now for cosmetology I found out the weekend before school started I was pregnant with my 2nd son, I’m due may 10th and my graduation is may 7th… Since I got pregnant again, I’ve done bene dealing with my husband b talking to other girls that I didn’t know about, not to mention he’s gone for a week to 2 weeks sometimes even 3 weeks for work and when he shine it’s only for a weekend and then fine again. He cheated on my while out of town with the hotel night shift clerk girl and even introduced me as his ex wife and told his work buddies he didn’t care what happened to me or our kids. And he got caught cheating and ratted on by his roommate. My husband ignores me, blocks me, turns off his phone just to not dels with me. Tells me he’ll only talk to me depending on how much I piss him off or not :roll_eyes::roll_eyes: I get up at 630 everydya and take my son to the babysitter and then drive an hour to school and then drive an hour and half back just to pick my son up and get back home every day… I have no where else to go till the baby comes and I finish school, plus the only time. Gotta deal with him is when he’s home, and that’s like 3 days if that… I promise you, if I can do it, you cna do it… I promise it’s gonna be fucking hard as hell caus win struggling and dying honestly. But I keep thinking if my kids and my schooling and I know for them it will be all worth it.

I’m 36, and finished my degree right before my 35th birthday. I worked full-time, ran an online business with my (ex) husband, and had two babies (one to start and one who came two years later). I also got divorced midway through my degree. It’s possible! You just have to be able to multi-task, squeeze in homework when you can (I used to do it on my lunch break sometimes), and get used to being more tired for awhile :grimacing: I graduated with a 4.0, and it’s the most proud I’ve ever been of myself. I think you should do it!

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Whatever you go for has to be something you really want I had my daughter early in my college career I had plenty of support got into a competitive program my last year before graduation I was pregnant with my son our final competency was very physical but not to far from my due date I told them if I go into labor I’m finishing this while the ambulance is on its way Oct 5 was my exam lil guy held out till the 30th but I did it and got my license while studio with two lil ones for my dream job it took me longer than most but I wanted now I’m a pta

If not now, then when?

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Try researching the school and see if they provide student family housing, and any financial aid or scholarships you can apply for to help with all the fees. Try it out before baby comes. Develop a study and homework schedule. You’ll need to consider internet access since majority of classes may be online.

Biggest piece of advice. Think long and hard about what you want to go to school for. Don’t waste your time and money for a degree you don’t want or change your mind about.

I put myself through school worked full time and I gave birth to my second baby finals week and took my last final as soon as I got out the hospital. Your kids will give u the motivation u need. Talk to the school u should be able to get pell grants through fasfa. I got money to go to school and pay for my books I didn’t pay a dime. Def do it.

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Maybe try to take as many classes online as you can? Obviously with the pandemic most are online anyway! You don’t have to get it done in the “normal” time frame either!

I am 25, married, work part time, a full time student, and full time mom of a wild 19 month old girl. Did I mention I’m also pregnant with twin girls that could come anyway between now and 9 weeks. We got this momma! The closer my due date gets the more I want to take a semester off, but then that’s extra year I have to go to school. I’m 3 classes away from being done with my basics and can start my Bachelors programs, but that program only starts each fall. So if i don’t continue with summer classes I will have to wait another year. With only 3 classes to do in that year. Which risks me losing financial aid due to not being full time. I completely understand wanting to take a break. But we are benefitting our babies in the long run​:heart::heart::heart::heart:

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I don’t recommend college unless you’re getting it paid for by scholarships or cash flowing it. Do not take our loans. Student loans ruined my life.

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I’m 31. 2 children and 2 bonus children, aged from 4 to 11. 3 of those children are with me full time (with the exception of being gone to school). I work full time, Monday - Friday. My fiancé works night shift so it’s typically just me and the kids at home. I’m also in the midst of planning our wedding, and have a custody battle brewing with my ex husband. I just started school yesterday. If not now, when? The time will pass regardless. Better yourself for your future, and your children’s future. It’s not going to be easy, but the outcome is definitely something you’ll be proud of.

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