I am unsure how to feel about my in laws coming to visit: Advice?

My in-laws are flying here in the beginning of December, and I’m terrified of my young babies getting the virus. They are already booked. Here are my thoughts: I want to see them, but I don’t want to risk my kids. If they don’t come now, when will they be able to come? Not that we know but will things be different maybe next year to where I feel like it will be safer? Guys, as it gets closer, I’m more anxious, I’m not okay with it at all. We’ve been staying home. My husband works mostly outside, but I am my children’s lifeline. I’m thinking about just asking them not to come. It’s making me so uncomfortable

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We are not promised tomorrow, virus or no virus. Soak up the love and time with family as much and as often as possible. The good news is that children (who do not have severe illness- like cancer) are not affected by this virus at all. I personally let my parents visit from another state as often as possible.

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Perhaps they could self isolate before they come and drive instead of fly??

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Don’t let them come. Just don’t risk it. They shouldn’t take it to heart tbh or tell them to quarantine for 10 days before they leave to visit. Your mental wellbeing is just as important as your safety

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They should quarantine for 2 weeks or being a negative test result. No touching the kids and masks when they want to hold them

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I wouldn’t worry about young kids getting sick. I work in child care. I’ve been around roughly 300 kids since this started, 1 got it. He was sick about 2 days and it was a vomiting cold essentially. Family is worth taking the risk for. Ask they keep hands cleaned and no kisses just hugs

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As nervous as it makes you, airports are very clean, seats are limited on flights, and planes are cleaned very often.
As long as they are staying to themselves before coming, wear a mask on the plane, and use hand sanitizer, and possibly change when they arrive at your house, I feel like there isn’t much to worry about.

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Just be honest tell them how you feel. I Am a grandmother of seven and would understand this Virus is bad

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I look at it like this could be the last time my kids see their grandparents or their great grandparents… we’re not promised tomorrow & we wear masks & take precautions, but I’m not bubbling my kids & they have to live their lives. Sickness is apart of life. No judgement here on whatever you decide to do because you’re their mama & you love them enough that whatever decision you make, it’ll be the RIGHT one. Prayers for comfort for you, mama :two_hearts:

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Perhaps you could get them a test when they get there just for saftey

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Have you talked to your husband about this? Are your in laws non believers of the virus? Do they social distance and wear masks normally? I agree with another commentator that maybe they can isolate themselves for the week or two before they come. No parties, no outgoing other than the store. That’s not a lot to ask if they love their grandchildren.

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I know when my daughter and her dad went to Alaska they had to get covid test a few day before the flow and when they came back home.

politely tell them not to come

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I worry too but we can’t hide from life forever. How would you feel if they died and never got to see you or their son and grandchildren. Nothing is guaranteed. Especially tomorrow

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Do you take them grocery shopping? Have they left your home since March for any reason? Have they been to a friends house? Have other family members came over? Have you gone out in public with them since it started? If yes, then you can let the in laws come!

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Get over it n be happy. The world is coming to an end, n you’re worried about them.

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Legally they are REQUIRED to self isolate as soon as they land for 14 days & NOT allowed ANY contact with anyone!! It is legally mandatory!!! So they should be safe AFRER they have isolated elsewhere for the 14 days!!

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They’re most likely older people, hopefully with knowledge of the health recommendations. I would think that they’re more at risk from the covid 19 virus than yourselves. However, if you or your children have any health issues such as diabetes or asthma there may be a slight concern

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What is there lifestyle like? Do they go out to a lot of places or see a lot of different people? Could you ask them to get tested before they come?

Have them wear n95’s and face shields while traveling and then shower as soon as they get in. I know it’s scary but I canceled my dads trip down in March due to the virus and fear and then he passed very unexpectedly in July. I would give anything to go back and uncancel that trip

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