I am upset about how my grandma is being treated: Advice?

Hey everyone. I’m looking for guidance here. TIA. My grandmother has raised me and provided not only for me but for my whole family since I was born. She’s, of course, older now, after a divorce with my grandfather a few years back, so she is alone basically in terms of a living situation. She has a house that she has been paying for/owned for ten years now. My father has always been a drug user/etc. But always stuck to her and lived with her because she gave him money, let him use her car, etc. and could never bring herself to kick him out. Fast forward to 2019; my father had a baby with a girl (almost 20 years younger than him might I add. he was also a young dad to me but still.), and since she gave birth, she’s been taking over the house. She thinks she runs the house now, and my dad plays along with it, saying he owns the house. Well, that has pissed me off, but I’ve recently learned (meaning 10 minutes ago) that my grandma has been staying at her friends houses telling me she’s “taking care of the houses” while they’re away, but I saw her one friend at the store this morning, so I know she isn’t away or on vacation. I also learned not only that, but when my grandma does go home to stay there, they make her sleep in a cot on the FLOOR while they took over her master bedroom. I am beyond LIVID right now, and I don’t know how to approach my dad because he is a ticking time bomb, so I don’t want to cause a huge fight or anything. He doesn’t use anymore, and he’s working, but still. He doesn’t pay anything for the house! Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this and also support my grandma in all of this?

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File for elderly abuse

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Unless your grandma wants you to there’s nothing you can do

Gma needs to serve an eviction.

i am a social work and investigate elder abuse, neglect, and exploitation…it sounds like they are exploiting your grandma. i strongly encourage you to make a report to your states elder abuse department.

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Elderly abuse/fraud. Just because she doesn’t say no doesn’t mean he isn’t wrong and guilty of a crime

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Report him to DHR on elder abuse!!!

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Talk with Grandma first, then confront Dad together.

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Yes this falls under elder abuse and they have services for them just like they do for children, you need to report this and an eviction needs to be filed on your dad and that little girl that is taking over the home your grandma OWNS

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He should have respect for his mother she’s good elder. 2nd she paid for the house kick em out by if hey room. If she don’t get respect either should they put the for down

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Call adult protective services and get them kicked out!!

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Adult Protective Services needs a call. They will know what to do and can help.

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They need to leave her house that may be her son but he grown and needs to go your grandma doesnt deserve the abuse

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Call EPS and file a report regardless of if your gram agreed to this situation it’s a chargeable offense! Call ASAP!

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Go to social services and the court and get legal aid. Talking to your father is not going to accomplish anything. Take care of the grandma who took care of u

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Get a place big enough & move Grandma in.

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Call adult protective services. This is abuse of the elderly.

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Girl I’m mad for you!!! They need to give grandma her room back at the VERY LEAST!!!

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This is one of those things where you grandmother is going to have to step up and put her foot down. This treatment will continue until she no longer allows it! It’s obvious that neither respect her and that he clearly takes advantage of her love for him. If your grandma and grandad are still cordial towards each other, I might would go talk to him too and say hey this is what is going on and see if maybe he can talk to your dad. When this was my dad and his girlfriend, I made my grandparents go down to the courthouse and file an eviction notice. This gave them 30 days to find somewhere else to go! They thought it was a joke, and at the end of 30 days nothing still had changed, so we called the police and escorted them out and my grandfather and I packed up all their stuff and sat it on the porch for them. They were livid and called us the worst possible names ever… but I did not care. While this hurt my grandma, she knew it was best. We kept telling her that until she made them take care of themselves they would continue to take advantage of her and treat her like trash and she has done her part in raising and taking care of him and now it was time for him to take care of himself. We went the legal route because the law cannot get involved with civil cases in my state. So if we would have just called them to come make them leave they couldn’t and of course it cut down on some of the backlash!

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Report to elderly abuse

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