I am 37 weeks pregnant. I have completed self quarantined myself and my 6 yr old son for the past 2-3 weeks. I’m going through a divorce with my unborn child’s father. He is still working- he manages a storage unit company and refuses to close the office, so he has people coming in to pay bills and ask questions, etc., not to mention delivery people. He claims only 3-4 people come in a week, but as he was telling me this, I heard voices through the phone and asked him who it was, and he said the UPS guy. He is also living with his dad, stepmom, and 14 yr old daughter, who I have no idea where they are going or if they are practicing social distancing as well… I’m nervous for when my son is born- right now, we have agreed for just my ex to come to my home to meet his new son, but I’m having a hard time with it. I am worried about his potential exposure and bringing it into my home and not only our soon to be new son but myself and my 6 yr old as well. I’m trying not to overreact or overthink as I know this is his son as well, but I am just so nervous.
For the safety of the child I would make it known to him that until he and his family complete a 2 week isolation period meeting the baby is off the table. People can argue with me and say that the child is just as much his as it is yours, but in the end if he will not put the baby’s safety first then you have to.
Girl I feel ya . My hubby wont cancel his visits with his children either right now . I’m 34 weeks along. His childrens mother is considered " essential " and lord knows who this womans around ! Not to mention her house a pigs pen … dog crap everywhere and just plain dirty , not messy dirty .
I dont feel comfortable even sitting by him when these visits happen and of course I’m the one who drives and is damn near forced to drive him .
To be honest this keeps up I’m gonna end up leaving to make sure my baby and self health are protected. May seem cold but j have to think about us … no one else is
Do you not plan on having the father there for the birth?
People need storage facilities year around. People move and such. Just as long as he comes home, strips his clothes, sanitizes the soles of his shoes, leaves his shoes at the door, heads straight for the shower and puts his clothes straight in the wash he should be fine. Use he can put tape down like the restaurant are doing. To keep people 6 ft from him. If he’s taking the correct precautions like all other workers. He should be fine.
Not worth the risk in my opinion and if you said to him then surely he would stay clear for a time. Its only a few weeks. Xxx
I don’t blame you. I would say no quarantine? Can’t see baby. End of story.
Not worth the risk! weather I was with my husband or not if I was bringing a new baby home and he was still working with the bublic we would be quarantined away from them till this is over.
This too shall pass and he will get his chance but it is better for everyone to think of the safety of the baby 1st.
If feelings get hurt, oh well that baby’s life comes 1st.
Do what you are comfortable with and he should understand and if not he can always take you to court if he gets a court date!
He’s working so he must be essential. How do you know he isn’t following all the steps to be safe? Do you know for a fact the people he’s living with aren’t following the quarintine or are you just assuming & going with the what ifs? Communication & asking questions is your first step. If you think you’re being safe by just going off of the what ifs, you’re 100% not. You need to find out FOR SURE and go from there.
When he comes over make sure he washed his hands and wears a mask
Check anything and e everything out with your OB and babies doc before you make any decisions please
People have to work still. As long as he strips and washes and sanitizes before he comes to your house. What if he was a doctor or nurse would you tell him he couldn’t meet his child?
Your in more danger delivering at the hospital
I wouldnt be comfortable with his being there physically without gloves and protective wear. Having said that, he is still the childs father and must take financial responsibility for himself as well as his children. People have to live through this. He isn’t refusing to stop working because he loves it so much. He is having to keep himself and even you, financially secure right now. Maybe telling you that you understand this and setting boundaries is best.
Just set some boundaries. Have a clean set of clothes for him to change into when he arrives. He needs to wear a mask and wash his hands thoroughly. No touching his phone or any other device while he is there. Best of luck
My third daughter was JUST born 2 days ago.
We have told everyone they have to wait to meet her. They can come look through our window, or FaceTime. But we don’t want people coming over.
It’s VERY hard. Frustrating for sure and sad. But you have to think about the baby. And yourself and son.
I seen a suggestion, unless he and his family 2 week quarantined themselves, I’d be saying no.
Any time you leave your house, you are at risk also. Any time you get food, go to your doctor apts, anything. Who is watching the other children when you give birth? Now your other child is going to be in contact with someone else. Idk to each their own but I feel that you are going to the extreme on this. But I dont think anyone is fully safe unless they stay home and dont go anywhere at all where people are. And I’m sure your out getting food or having someone get it for you. But again that’s spreading it also.
If he was still your husband and you werent getting a divorce…would you be mad at him or make him leave the house because he is still working?
I would be nervous too. You should handle it by shifting the blame to your doctor. Stating the doctor said this, that and this. He or she recommends you do this in order to keep the baby safe. Your child’s father is more likely to listen to a doctor’s advice than yours. Good luck Momma! Wishing you a healthy delivery !
Only selfish parents would insist on seeing their children right now if that puts them or their family at risk.
I know you call him “husband” but I recognize that’s a loose term right now. I hope you’re not married. That only complicates things for moms & kids. If you aren’t married don’t put him on the birth certificate. Don’t inform of his child’s birth until this threat is over. Stop talking to him. He doesn’t care about this child.