I am worried something is wrong with my pregnancy: Advice?

This is my 2nd pregnancy and totally different than the first. I am almost 16 weeks pregnant. Every dr appointment has been good. I went in last week to get checked out because the last week and a half, I was experiencing some cramping, felt more like stretching, it was just feeling weird. When I went to the dr, he did an exam and all and said all are good and some cramping is normal since the baby is growing. I decided to also go on the internet (I know, I shouldn’t have done that), and then it started talking about cervical incompetence, and that has me freaked out. When he did the exam, he checked my cervix and didn’t say anything about it, so I am assuming all’s good. But how do I know for sure? I am so scared something could go wrong. How do I stop worrying all the time about something going wrong? Help


Stop reading stuff online it makes you more paranoid. Some pregnancy groups on Facebook will do the same. I had to unfollow groups during my pregnancy.

If you had an incompetent cervix, this would have happened on your first pregnancy. I have experience with this - happens on first pregnancy and each subsequent you have to have a cerclage installed. This is one of the main things that is checked for during exams so if you were not notified of any cervical issues, you are doing great. Stretching is normal as things are expanding. Cramping like period cramps should be addressed with your doctor. Best wishes to you.

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Also remember, every pregnancy is completely different. It’s not going to be the same as last time. If you’re really worried, always call the doctor as many times as you wish. That’s what they’re there for. Another tip from someone who’s first and only live birth ended up in many complications and a now healthy 9yr old daughter, don’t panic unless the docs panic. If the docs are chill about something and they really listened to your concerns and didn’t brush you off, it generally means they can handle it very confidently with great outcomes.

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Had the same thing happen to me. I have 3 kids and i felt this with my last one. Your uterus to expanding making more room for your baby to grow.

You can request a hard copy of the record of the office visit which may answer your questions. You have a right to them.

I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have had terrible cramping almost my entire pregnancy. I too was fearful something was wrong but the doctors have always reassured me everything is ok. They insist it’s just round ligament pain with the muscles that support the uterus stretching. I also have pain in the center of my lower stomach that is apparently caused by remnants of my umbilical cord when I was a baby. I had never heard of that but they said it typically goes unnoticed until a woman gets pregnant. No cause for concern as it doesn’t cause any negative side effects outside of that cramping feeling. My baby is healthy and active as ever so try not to worry. I know it’s easier said than done. Just take it easy, don’t get up or out of bed too fast, and be careful rolling over in bed. Plenty of water and potassium ought to help to :blush:

My second and third pregnancies were like that. It was like my body was saying, “oh crap, here we go again”. Please stop googling and listen to your doctor! He/she will definitely warn you if anything is amiss.

May need to hydrate more.


Push fluids and cramping can be normal as long as it toleratable because your baby is growing and stretching everything out.

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Ask to have your cervix check with an internal ultrasound… i dont know if that is something that you can request but that is the best way to check the cervix for incompetence

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You usually cramp more with your second pregnancy. It’s normal to cramp while pregnant. I have been having really bad cramps so far

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I felt this more with baby #2… I had a cesarean with my 1st so I figured that was part of it as well… had no issues at all. best thing is to not Google everything you feel so you dont stress… Just stay healthy and hydrated

You would be feeling Braxton Hicks early on, as early as 12 weeks or earlier, pelvic pressure, and more pre-labor symptoms. Cramping is VERY common during pregnancy and some women experience it as well as BH more frequently than others. Google is your worst enemy. I know I googled every symptom I had and got the worst results doing so. Google was telling me I had Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IGR) when I started googling my baby being a lower birth weight than normal. They told me the whole pregnancy my baby was low birth weight and she was born 6 lbs 6 oz (totally normal!). If your doctor says everything is okay or doesn’t mention anything abnormal, DONT google your symptoms! It’s the same as googling cold and flu symptoms and being told it’s a sign of cancer :woman_shrugging:t2::grimacing: google isn’t the answer for your medical concerns. Your doctor knows best. Don’t be afraid to tell your doctor the anxieties you’re having about your pregnancy. It’s going to be okay :yellow_heart:

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How do you know for sure? Your Dr checked you, they do these examinations to rule out complications. That’s how you know… Relax and be grateful your pregnancy is non eventful at this stage.


Drink lots of water. Try and just trust that the Dr knows all the signs and symptoms that would be alarming. I know it’s hard, especially when you can’t feel the baby yet. I just tried to tell myself that if there was no blessing, Dr said everything was normal then I just had to believe it.

It seems like anxiety is an issue. I started taking Zoloft during my last pregnancy and it worked miracles.

None of your pregnancies will be the same, all 3 of mine were tremendously different and all with different challenges. the stretching and cramping does sound normal… of course if there was bleeding or abnormal discharge you would want to get that checked out. Take your doctor’s advice. your body is growing a human being and it’s not gonna do it the same way every time. try to enjoy the pregnancy. I did prenatal water aerobics and it was incredible! it helped the stretching and all those ligaments and my pelvis relax and just had wonderful effects on me, maybe try that? :blush:

Increase your fluid intake and don’t go looking for trouble. Stay off the internet. Best of luck to you, mama!

Fluids. And yes cramping is normal