I built up the courage to leave my husband and need support: Thoughts?

Last night, I finally built up the courage to tell my husband that I was finished with our marriage. I always told him to please try talking to me more, love me more, make me feel like I’m worth his time, give me some attention… he still doesn’t. Enough is enough. He is shocked & upset, which I expected. He’s also hurt, which I ALSO expected. I’m hurt too. I can’t stand how he treats our girls. He pushes them away, doesn’t give them attention, no love, no affection between a father and his daughters, doesn’t play with them, doesn’t read books with them, he always yells… again, enough is enough. I told him to try more, do more — still nothing. I AM LEAVING. I need to RUN. I don’t want to look back and regret it, saying things like “I should’ve left. I should’ve done this and that” DO IT NOW. Be on my own with the kids, and we’ll be happier. Right now, it’s really hard going through this… one day at a time. Please tell me you’re going through this too. I really need support right now.

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I stayed longer than I should have. We went to counseling,he walked out first session. The counselor said ,“I see a divorce in your future”. It took me two more years to do it. When he saw I was leaving he wanted counseling again. It gets to a time and place that it’s too late. I wish I had left sooner. I hurt my kids by staying. He didn’t show them any more attention than he did me. One son said to him that I was his mother and father.

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Sounds like you are doing what is best for you and your kids. Y’all deserve to be happy. To be with people who want to make y’all happy. Prayers sent and I wish y’all a happy future

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You can love your children and still not know how to parent. He is their father. Part of the divorce needs to recommend parenting classes for both of you. To be fair. It cannot hurt. It is hard to be a single parent. Been there. Good luck to you. :purple_heart:

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Did this when my son was 3. Best decision i ever made! I remarried when my son was almost 18. 2nd marriage was a good one. Sadly after twenty some years together he passed away. Been a widow now for18 yrs, my son and grandson are great. You don’t need a man to make u complete, women are the strong ones. Men are needy! Good Luck! My son became a great father without the help of his father. My grandson is almost 20 and a fine young man.

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March 2017…I could have written this! 18 years of marriage, 2 daughters and I was miserable. When I told him I wanted a divorce, he was shocked. Even cried. Fast forward, and I am remarried to a man who appreciates and respects me😊 he loves “our girls” (we have 5 daughters together) and my ex still doesn’t seek out time with his kids. Run…don’t walk! Even if you are alone for a while, you won’t feel as lonely and hurt as you did living with someone who is unable to assist in your happiness. Good luck!

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Go for it
Go for happiness
Live your best life with your kids
Take care of u first
When the kids see u happy
They became happy
Tell them tolk to them

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Don’t look back . You will be fine . It’s very hard but life is too short to be with someone who makes you unhappy. Live your best life with your kids. Go for Happiness. I did it 40 years ago and never looked back

You have thought about it and sounds like it’s a good decision and yes - many years ago

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I am going threw it now , no daye nighr , no love making , He does nothing with my kids ,but he is a good father to our son that we adopted together , i get no gifts at holidays . I just lost my best frind in October she was always there to help me and i was able to vent to her . We arw still together because our son is Autistic and i dont feel the need for him to deal with change so i just deal with it . I wish i could be lkie look it over but i know our son will suffer . I feel like he is my live in roommate . And i really miss my Friend now i just cry alot .

I went through this. As I was moving my things out, he wanted to go see a counselor, which I had been asking him to do for months. To late. He was a good provider but the emotional support was not the for myself or my daughter. It was a good move for us. We fell in love with life again.

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I did this too, but I stayed way too long. When I finally made the decision to leave, it was like this eternal sadness lifted. I knew I had challenges ahead, but there was hope that my life would get better. I wish I would have left sooner.

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I have to stay. But if I could support me and the twins I would.

Reach for the stars!!! Anythings possible!

You need to think of your daughters Leave!

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In order to feel love and be loved you have to give it affection attention kind words closeness …you have to teach men how to love you …love is an action and you are just as responsible for it as he is men aren’t as emotional as women but they need it to …lady get out of your own way and go teach him by loving him teaching him how to love you …you are as much to blame as him and more so because your the one with the problem and no matter where you go next or what man you get next gonna have the same problem because you are STILL you demand love no no its like telling a 3 year old child to read a book …they cant even sound out words because nobody has taught them they dont know what an A sounds like they don’t recognize by looking at it that it is an A …if you haven’t taken the time and put in the efforts of teaching a man how to love you …women have all these expectations childish really "expectations are predetermined resentment " and let me just say theres a million women out here that are gonna love your man so good he will wonder why he ever chose you … And you will be alone and no man will ever measure up to your imagination because you never share your fantasy with him … Your love life is your responsibility you made a commitment …ask yourself do you flirt with him ??? Do you even know how …i get half of my satisfaction by being the aggressor in my relationship and let me tell you ain’t a woman alive that can steal my man not even a glance . you will see throw your tantrum you will see i told you the truth . and you will be sorry and you can not undo it once you follow through .

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Leave!! Be the woman teaching your daughters that you deserve better, you have self worth and self respect!
Woman should be equals.
Life is to be enjoyed!
Go enjoy your girls and laugh again!

Seven months ago I walked away from a 22 year marriage. I wanted the same thing you wanted. He was not willing. It was the best thing I ever did. I am 61. Got a part time job, rented a room. I am a very happy woman now. I am enjoying life and will never go back to a toxic relationship. It’s going to be hard and lonely. Please hang in there it will get easier.

Its hard but you can do it. It is so important for your babies to see that you have value and self worth. And having happyness and joy are equally as important they are food for the soul. I can tell you this i spent 25 plus year with my children father and the was very little happyness just days here and there. When i in the stages of leaving and told my children my youngest became enraged and hung up stating she would never speak to me or her father again. I was shocked i thought she would be a big supporter since she is very bitter toward het father. After she calmed down and I was able to talk. She explained that her anger and hurt toward my leaving is because why did i wait so long and allowed them to grow up so miserable and happy and now they were all moved out and I was going to change things after it was too late for them. I had never looked at it thought their eyes but i wish i would have

Good for you girl!!! Maybe this will be a wake up call on his part. You just did what a lot of woman wish they could do. I’m proud of you!! Keep in being you. Things will get better with time. God has a plan for you. One day you will find a man that truely deserves your love and appreciates everything about you. His loss. Never look back and concentrating on you and your lovely babies. Kuddos. Go treat yourself when ur feeling sad. Even if it’s just soaking in the tub!! U got this. Find yourself again and enjoy the less stress that he brings to the table

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