I do not feel comfortable with my boyfriends mom staying with us: Advice?

I’m 36 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend has agreed to let his mother, her fiancée, and little sister come to visit and stay with us in our two-bedroom apartment the week after I am expected to be due. I have only met these people twice, and we have only exchanged maybe ten words in those meetings. I have tried multiple times throughout my pregnancy to make the mother feel included, yet she only communicates with her son. I have communicated to my s/o that I do not feel comfortable with them staying here, with me being a first-time mother and trying to adjust to life with a new baby and recovering from delivery myself - I’d prefer not to have to do so in front of a crowd of pretty much strangers. He is upset and feels I am selfish for wanting them to stay elsewhere. Am I selfish or should I stick to my guns and politely ask them to make other arrangements?

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Stick to your guns. Stress is the last thing you need

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If you can’t communicate with your partner you are in big trouble

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Stick to your guns. You don’t need all that stress especially a week after you have yalls baby.
He needs to listen to your concerns & ask them to stay else where. You & your boyfriend need this time to bond with yalls child and not have everyone grabbing him/her when they want.
STICK TO YOUR GUNS YOU HAVE A SAY!

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Yes you should, or just keep telling yourself it’s only temporary and it’s an opportunity to bond with her.

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Stick to your guns. Your world will quickly be turning upside down and you need to be able to handle and process everything without the added stimulus. Specially when it’s not a relaxing supportive environment/relationship.

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Stick to your guns and let them stay somewhere else! No one needs that as a first time mom

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Say something. I had to. You want to bond with your baby and have that quality family time and in laws can be overbearing.

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You are the one recovering from delivering a baby (wether it’s from a c-section or virginal delivery). You say and do what you need to be comfortable.

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Stick to your guns. You’re the one who will be recovering and adjusting and its easier to do that witgout anyone else staying in your home. Let them know they’re welcome to stop by and visit for a bit if theyd like but they need to sleep somewhere else.

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All these mamas are right. If he cant understand that thats unacceptable, you guys have another problem on your hands… im so sorry girl. I hope they dont end up coming and you get the r&r you need and deserve

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How long are they staying? 3 days, get over it. 3 weeks, hell nah!

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Is he going to be there to cater to them 24/7? They can stay elsewhere and come visit for a bit or maybe visit at a later date where you wouldnt mind them staying. That’s alot of people while you’re recovering and trying to figure out somewhat of a schedule, and it’s flu season!!

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I was literally in this position last year. You have to stick to your guns and let your
s/o know that you’re not comfortable at all, maybe explain to him why you feel uncomfortable?

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I’m telling you now STICK TO YOUR GUNS and you will be so thankful later. Recovery from birth and adjusting to having a newborn is stressful as fuck by itself and for most women post birth isn’t pretty, you want to be comfortable in your home during this period not tip toeing around strange people in your house.

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Go with how you feel if he doesnt understand or care stay somewhere else

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they can wait, your recovery, bonding & adjusting takes precedence over anything else. especially you saying they’re pretty much strangers, don’t need that added stress.

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So. Kinda similar situation. I hated my husband’s mother at the time. She came with his aunt who I adore but i sure did make them stay in a hotel. I wanted my own 4 walls to be mine when i wanted it to be down time. Come visit come spend time whatever but when im done i tapped out and they could go else where my husband if baby and i were gonna sleep left too with them for a while but the second I messaged that we were up or I wanted something or whatever he was home in 10 minutes or less.

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stick to your guns. Everything is about to change with bringing a baby into the world, you don’t need essentially strangers impeading on time where you have every right to be comfortable & adjusting to a new way of life. Your recovery is more important than the bfs mothers “comfort”.

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Where are they all going to sleep, your baby and you need some quiet time after birth not a house full of people.

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