I do not like the idea of having a blended family: Thoughts?

I would rather be a single parent than suffer from a blended family. I’m in the middle of a very nasty divorce. People say to me, “you will meet someone else and have more children don’t worry,” but a blended family makes me uncomfortable. I understand that my daughter will one day have a stepmother, so why would I make her have to put up with a stepfather and step-siblings? I’ve always wanted more children, but I couldn’t do that to my child. I’ve always wanted a family, but a blended family is just second best, and if I can’t have it the proper way, then I don’t want it anyway. Am I the only one who feels like this, or will my feelings change once everything settles?

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Are you a part of a blended family? I’m curious of where you got the idea that its a negative thing

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This has been my feeling always. No I’m not changing either for anyone. You’re aloud to feel how you want. There my kids and I’m selfish and no idc.

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Likely change. Best wishes!

It will change (hopefully). Sometimes in life things don’t work how you want them but it could be because of a bigger plan. Just give yourself time to heal first.

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I initially felt this way too. 4 yrs after, i had my 2nd child. Emotions are fickle things that change often. Dont worry about it right now

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What’s do wrong about a blended family ours works out great

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I felt that way . eventually that goes away . you are grieving your prior family and life that was. Its still there. Just in a different way .give yourself time . and heal ! Best wishes. I know its hard :broken_heart::broken_heart:

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Family is what you make it and if you have such negative feelings about blended families, then it’ll never work for you. It’s all up to you.

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Im from a big blended family and i loved it growing up!

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Everyone is different. Things change. I felt the same in the beginning and most times what I experienced made this sound better for the kids. Someone is always petty. Things change people get older and if your lucky you’ll run into what you need. Hugs. Nobody is wrong. Everyone has the right to have a life the way they feel comfortable. My kids actually told me to start dating. Hugs.

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Get through your divorce, focus on you and your daughter and worry about all the extra shit later. If it happens it happens if not then you’re stressing for no reason.

I am part of a blended family and it is nothing but love. My mom and step dads ex wife worked hard to get along to the point that we took family vacations. It is all in what you make it. Right now, you still have hurt and Anger. My mom had my sister when I was 13 and she is one of my best friends. As far as my step sister and brother, we don’t use the word step. We are a family.

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You will think differently one day. Just choose wisely.

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Blended families aren’t always a bad thing. I’m a mom to 7 (4 of my own and 3 bonus kids). I’ve been thru divorce twice and it isn’t easy (worse on the kids honestly). It’s a personal decision and while your stance could change, it’s not up to those of use who are okay with blended families to change your mind. Best of luck to you!

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A blended family isn’t second best. Maybe one day your feelings will change.

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Thats really weird honestly. What is so bad about it. It would only be bad if yiu did it to your child and then divorced again leading to broken bonds.

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My husband and I have 6 kids. 3 I gave birth to. 3 are his. I adopted his 2 older kids. Youngest has a mom in his life. There is. Nothing wrong with our family. Husbands ex is very involved and we are all friends. My ex is very involved and we are friends. It’s only as hard as you make it. All kids are treated equal. I find it selfish not to allow your kids a family of some sort

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My family is blended. And so is my sons. I have gained wonderful family members who treat me better than my own blood family.

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I mean, you’re entitled to your feelings. :woman_shrugging:t2: You may find someone that changes your mind but only the future can tell. My kids see my long-time bf as a stepdad. We don’t have any kids together and he doesn’t have any of his own. But they don’t “suffer” his presence. They love him. And they wouldn’t “suffer” siblings if we ever had kids together. :woman_shrugging:t2: He loves them and treats them wonderfully.

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