I don't feel loved or appreciated in my relationship anymore: What should I do?

What do you do when the love feels dead? We’ve been together for 7 years with two children, and I have no desire to have sex. I don’t feel appreciated or valued as a human being and feel more like a tool or vessel to fill other people’s needs. My partner only shows me attention when he wants sex and is quick to anger whenever we disagree about something. I’m just so lost and feel so behind on everything I can’t even enjoy the simple pleasures of life. And now I worry my partner will leave me or drift to another because I won’t have sex. Idk what to DO

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Fucking love yourself first. Been there,done that. You deserve better.

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You 2 need to sit down with an unbiased person and talk about it. He may very well may be feeling the same way!!! Open up and talk about it!

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Love everyone around you.Let anger go or you will loose.

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Why aren’t you talking to him about it? Communicate and find out his thoughts and feelings instead of only worrying about yourself.

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Divorce is an option

You answered yourself. You deserve to be happy to feel loved and appreciated. Just don’t stay for the kids that’s the worst thing. Its better they see you happy with someone, someone that shows you love and respect so the kids know what a healthy relationship looks like. Even if it giant with their dad

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Leave … Because you deserve to be treated good… Not mistreated…

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Divorce is NOT an option !!! All marriages face times like yours . Don’t let anyone fool you that they don’t . Your husband is probably is a rut just like you are.
Talking to him will probably only cause a fight .
Try changing things up and giving him a reason to be interested in you again .
Put on make up , make special dinners for just the two of you, show him he is your man .
Just because you are married shouldn’t mean the two of you need to stop trying to interest each other .

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Wow I feel the same way

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Counseling, if he doesn’t want to do that then ask him to sit and talk through everything, listen to him openly. Find a church and get involved. It is worth fighting for, nothing worth having is easily gotten. Fight for not only yourself but for your kids.

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Talk to a counselor, him and God

How do you be there for yourself? Sounds like you haven’t and now your lost w 0 passion. Girl find your happiness or you’ll never be or make anyone happy. I promise you that

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Been there. Tell him he needs to step up and give you the attention and appreciation you need or you have to walk cuz you deserve better and just staying in a relationship like that will basically beat you down

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Move on, you deserve to feel wanted and loved :cupid:

What are you doing to make him feel loved? It goes both ways.

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Its easy for people to say walk away you deserve better ect. In reality its not that easy. First of all I would try to remember what attracted you to him. What hobbies did you both share together? How often do you both have alone time together? Try looking at the situation from his point of view also. Be open and honest and take a lot of deep breaths. Sometimes the stress of life in general brings every couple to.this point. Step bacl rediscover each other. Have fun doing it.

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I’ve had the same issues in my relationship. 18 years now. I tried talking to him about it but men are different than women and while they are capable of understanding your words, they feel/perceive things differently. They also show love differently I’ve noticed. Try sitting down and talking, or write down what you’re feeling without coming off as accusing him of causing your feelings.
It’s so hard being a woman, a wife and a mom. It’s hard to switch off of mom mode and go into wife mode. They don’t understand it, they can’t. Their roll is different. He may be feeling the same and that’s the reason for the anger(not that it’s ok). Try talking, calmly about it. Come from a place of ‘we’re in this situation and how can we fix it’ and not so much of ‘you make me feel like…’ If all else fails-
I even went on strike- bought all frozen and canned foods for them and quit cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, grocery shopping, etc. They all got the point after about a week and started helping more.

Let him go you need to be happy .

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A relationship is not all about sex open your eyes girlie girl if you r some where where u dont feel loved respected.only used it’s not ok counselling helps but its gotta work both ways if you’ve tried all you can make a desicion good luck

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