I don't think my best friend spends enough time with her son: Advice?

Haven’t any of you heard the saying…You have to be cruel to be kind.
Some nasty comments which are not warrented.
If your her bestie then maybe invite her over for a coffee and gently tell her your concerns.
It doesn’t mean your jealous, it’s called concern.
Sorry your receiving some nasty comments :slight_smile:

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If she’s your best friend you should be able to speak honestly to her. My best friend and I don’t agree on everything we voice our opinions with each other we argue sometimes. But we are friends and know we don’t have to agree or take the advice of the other.

So she goes out in the evenings when her baby is asleep? Mind your business and quick making comments to your friend.

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If it’s an actual issue there are services to contact if it’s not than do you’r best to support her invite her to play dates mom groups etc etc.

MIND YOUR BUSINESS unless u have no problem losing the friendship. Bc saying anything is probably gonna cost u it.

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It isnt any of ur business honestly :woman_shrugging:t3: her kid is taken care of and isn’t in any danger. If they are fed clothed and have a roof over their head all you’re going to do is upset her and probably not hear from her again. Let her parent as she chooses.

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You’re her bestfriend so it’s definitely your business and I’d say it’s better coming from you than anyone else
I was in a similar situation (as she is) and regardless of dealing with PPD I would’ve wanted someone to tell me
Best of luck to you dear!

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Sorry but if she wants to act like she hasn’t a child then she should give custody to the parents. You don’t have a child and palm it off cause you want to go out and party all the time

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Umm… hasn’t this already been answered or am I having dejavu?! :thinking::unamused:

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It’s her choice on what she chooses to do. Maybe try talking to her, but you can’t tell her what to do.

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I feel like of you say something you need to be very kind about it. Personally if my best friend feels the need to comment on my behavior it really makes me reflect on myself.

None of your business.

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While I dont agree with pushing her child off on her parents it’s also not our place to judge how other people grieve. Going through a breakup can be really hard on people mentally, not to mention shes had alot of huge life changes (moving back in with her parents, birthing a child alone). Instead of tearing her down try to make sure she is okay. Maybe her taking this time for herself is necessary for right now. Give her time, be supportive and watch out for signs of ppd.

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I wouldn’t say anything. I am sure her parents will say something soon. If you say something you may lose her as a friend

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Ask her to get checked for post partum depression.

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Maybe try talking to her see how she is. I had bad postpartum depression and to what could seem like not wanting to spend time may be her needing a break or someone to talk to…

I don’t agree with the fact she just has baby sitters (her parents) for every weekend so she doesn’t have responsibility of her child. I don’t think you should say anything as it will just be a fight, it should be her parents telling her.
She will regret the time lost when her baby is grown and her child will resent her and that will only be her problem.

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If my best friend was doing something like this I would say something to may cause a fight but as a best friend you should be able to voice your opinion without her freaking out. Maybe she needs someone to make her realize what she’s been doing…

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If you guys aren’t all that close then it’s not your responsibility to say anything. But if it is your best friend then yeah I would. Sometimes people just need someone who cares about them and loves them to call them out on their shit :woman_shrugging:t2: that’s what best friends are for. I’m not saying you have to be judge mental or anything (I’m not saying you are by any means) but be real. She might go off on you that’s a possibility or she might thank you for being concerned and caring enough not to enable her. Either way I don’t think a new mom should be going out several times a week or every weekend. You need to stay home with your baby. Yes once in a while is fine. No problem with that but if it’s becoming a regular thing or a habit then no. And like many people have said maybe she does have PPD and this is how she’s coping. If you guys are close like that then yeah it’s your responsibility if you love her to say something. If it continues then at least you know you tried. Good luck.

She sounds selfish. What happened to raising a child that YOU make! That child is going to grow up not feeling loved. There’s women out there that can’t have children and give ANYTHING to be sitting at home with one, not out drinking her life away trying to get her big hole filled. Every weekend is extreme! If you want to go out and live your extra life every weekend then don’t bring children into that!

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