I don't think my son will like being under someone else's care: Advice?

I have a situation. I’m faced with the dilemma of having to leave my 16-month-old, possibly, with a babysitter for the first time. I am a SAHM, and my son is used to me being with him 24/7. My mother has been battling cancer for five years, and she has been in the hospital for the better part of 4 months. She lives several hours away from me. I don’t feel it is appropriate, or even possible, to bring my son with me to go to her, as a 16-month-old isn’t gonna be able to spend all day, for many days, in a hospital room and that is my sole purpose for going. I can not even fathom not making a trip to my mother for possibly the last time, but I also can not bear the thought of being away from my baby for an extended period of time, knowing that there is a real probability that, at some point, my hubs will have to procure a sitter. I am concerned that this situation would affect my son negatively. I know the person who would be the sitter, and I definitely trust her with the well being of my son (she is a close friend’s mother), that isn’t the issue. I’m just afraid that my son will not take kindly to being under someone’s care, other than hubs and myself.

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If you have the time before you go , leave your son in the care of this lady for a couple of hours each day for him to get used to her . Even if you stay for a while the first time .
This sort if situation is why i advocate having young children get used to being in the care of others .
You will probably fret more than Bub .
Leave him with a shirt of yours that you have worn , but not washed

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He will be fine… leave him with a sitter for a few hours… if you dont go and see your momma while she is still with you you will regret not going. Kids will be ok without having their moms there 24/7 sometimes moms need a break for a few hours for your mental health your baby will be ok there is all kinds of ways to stay connected viedo chat, facetime etc… it takes a village to raise a child… honey find that village you are a good momma.

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Here is my thoughts on this. You’re going to have to “compartmentalize”. Your baby might not like it (or he might surprise you), but you will also have someone caring for him that can handle that. Your son won’t be hurt, malnourished, or injured in any way by this. While you’re focusing with your mom, and it sounds like you want to and should, you’ll have to let that part go. Hopefully he surprises you; most babies do. But in the off-chance that he’s unhappy with you being gone for the entire time, he will he okay. You will choose well for him. And you will come back knowing in your heart that you were where you needed to be.
I asked someone to watch my son once and started to warn her and worry about crying, etc. Her response was that she had five babies and there wasn’t much she couldn’t handle. And she was right. His crying gave her the opportunity to hold and comfort him. You will be okay. He will be okay. Hugs

You need to get your son used to being with other people!! God forbid something happens to you and your husband your child would be screwed!!

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Go be with your mom, if not you will regret it. I left my kids for a few days to be with my mom as she passed. I’d never change that, and it’s been a few weeks and my 5 kiddos are completely over the fact that I was gone eventhough it was so tough on all of us while i was gone.

Try it for an hour a day before you go. Have her around him so he knows her and leave to get groceries or to make other arrangements. It’ll be better for him to get to know her more and for your piece of mind when the time comes for you to leave him.

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Your son will be fine…its you. At 16mths he shouldve had a sitter by now. Stop over coddling…it hurts them in the long run.

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Maybe have a couple practice rounds before you go to get him used to it while your still close by

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Is it possible for the babysitter go with you & stay where you’re staying while away so the child is closer to you & him see you on & off??
If not I agree with Anise Marie’s suggestion.

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It will be good for your child. You will have to learn thisbat one point. Doing it while they are young gets them in the habit of trusting others. Like going to family members or to school or friends. Time apart is healthy and helps both sides in having time to there self.

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Invite her over and have your child play with her a few times.

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You said yourself you trust her that is 99% of the battle. It’ll be ok!! You really need that time with your mother it sounds like. Sending positive vibes💕

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A temporary situation. Trust your hubby and go.

You said it yourself the sitter is trusted so the issues here are with you not being able to let go and let your son learn it’s ok to be with other people. Since he hasn’t you dont really know how it will go. So all fear that your building in yourself and not fair to yourself to do so. You hubby will be close by right? So everything is all good try not to stress and be amazing for your mom in her time of need.

It’ll be harder on u than him. Kids that young get over it pretty quickly

Your son won’t like? My son doesn’t like bed time, or picking up his mess, or being told no. He gets over it. All kids have seperation anxiety at some point, but you still have to do what you have to do.

Your son will do just fine. Your mother is most important now. Children are very adaptable. No long term effects you will suffer more than he will

It may take a minute for your child to adjust but they are resilient and will do fine! I’m sorry you’re going through all of this period

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Okay tbh youre baby will most likely cry…alot. He needs to get used to his new babysitter. Dont worry after a few days your baby will adore his new sitter

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