I fee l like I was a last resort to my spouse: Advice?

You deserve so much better :disappointed:

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There is a reason he has had to start over so many times… you deserve better than that, as a previous poster said you deserve to be happy! And he is obviously not bringing you joy :pensive:

Run. Do what makes you and the kids happy and what is good for yalls soul. He clearly doesn’t care about your feelings, etc. That’s not love that’s using you. Some people can’t stand to be alone so they constantly have to be in a relationship.

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We only live once you do what makes you happy life is short

Get rid of him…life is too short to deal with this bs

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There is someone out there that will show you how you’re supposed to be loved. Leave this POS.

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That’s horrible and very sad. I hope you find a way to believe you are worth more and make moves to get away from him. You know at this point he’s open for options so you should be too. Not necessarily new sexual partners per say but stash extra money aside, look into programs you could qualify for to get you started. It sounds like anything else would be better. I wouldn’t internalize it or wonder if it’s you either, it sounds like the problem is him. What your kids live with (and they pick up body language too) sets the tone for their relationships and expectations. Don’t do your kids a disservice by telling them this is normal. Get your plan ready before he gets his next childish whim.

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We as women’s teach man how to treat us by taking anything thay do to us and allow them to say what ever he really just wont to use you for his benefit do not let him use you bless to you

Leave. Speaking from experience. He’s not going to change. You need to take care of yourself for the kids. If you don’t, whose going to? You’re not happy, the kids aren’t going to be happy.

U sound like u may be better without him sounds like he is causing u alit of heartache and sorry bout his luck if he has to start over he is only wanting u back cause that other woman passed

Best believe you’ll find someone that feels you are the best choice

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I hope you find the strength to do what is right. Especially for your babies. Good luck, think about how you can make him leave.

If you are satisfied to live this life for the rest of your life, then stay. If not, I pray that you find the strength to move on.
Also you will be teaching your children what it looks like to value yourself.

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Throw away the whole man and do you for a while and them babies he isnt there because he loves you he is there because it’s comfortable and he is secure there he would be long gone

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You gotta put those babies & yourself first. They see that stuff & it will damage them not to mention what it’s doing to you. You can’t be your best self for them if you’re caught up on him & feeling neglected like that. Trust me when I say there is a whole a** man out there somewhere praying for a family woman like you he will never get the chance if you don’t cut the dead weight.

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You honestly deserve better. Do not put up with that at all. But only you yourself will decide when enough is enough

Sweetie, I think it’s time to take the kids and go your separate ways. It will be hard but in the long run you’ll be so much better off and happier. Sign up for assistance to get yourself up and going; that’s what it is there for; speak to your doctor about programs for your special needs child. Many communities have programs that can offer some support like RESPITE and such. Take care of you and that will aid in taking care of your children.

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You can do this without him. He’s an emotional vampire.

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He sounds broken. Insist he get screened for depression and start therapy. Get couples counseling to help you through the hard conversations. Figure out what the problems are and if they are fixable.

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Girl leave you can do better