How do you discipline your four-year-old? I cannot for the life of me get my daughter to listen. I have tried times out and taking things away. I’ve tried putting her on the stairs and in her room. She won’t listen to me when I put her on the stairs for time out, and if I put her in her room, she literally screams bloody murder and can do that for hours if I don’t give in. Nothing works. I try and talk and explain to her why she was in time out and that she needs to listen and nothing is sinking in. She is extremely stubborn and even laughs at me. I feel like all I do is yell at her all day long, and I hate that. I don’t want to do that anymore. I have a five-month-old also, and I feel like I am being nice to him and just scolding her all day. Idk what do to. I’ve tried it all. The only thing I haven’t tried is possibly getting her evaluated to see if she may have a learning disorder or autism, but she really doesn’t have any of the signs of it. Idk I feel completely defeated. Plus, I am going to be homeschooling my kids and I need help with discipline. I don’t want to spank I have tried that, and I hate it as well. Help, please!!
Maybe a counselor? She could just be acting out since she has a new younger sibling.
Do you think maybe she is yearning for your attention, some mommy daughter time, with the baby and all?
I have a 6 year old and a 1 month old and I notice he is jealous of all the attention baby is getting and sometimes acts out.
Honestly, look into positive parenting. My daughter was the same way(there were other issues going on that we were unaware of, so evaluation wouldn’t be a bad idea either) but seriously add the positive parenting into play therapy. It’s made a complete 180 with my 5 yr old. She is still a child and behaves as such but the tantrums are far and few between and don’t last nearly as long anymore. She is probably seriously jealous over the new baby.
When shes screaming like that ignore her and walk away tell her she can get out when shes done thats what we do. Not much of a tantrum when no ones watching. Then when mine decides hes done then i tell him “dont do “whatever he did” or you go back”
Have you had her ears tested.Mybe she cannot hear you. Talk to her Dr.
Empty her room of everything in it and let her scream it out. Do not respond. She will eventually calm down and need to talk to you. Then, she earns her things back.
Following because my son is the exact same!
Is this new?? Since new baby… Yes… Get her evaluated… Just to be on the safe side… I hate to see children disciplined for something out of their control…
It’s the 4 year old power struggle. Just try to stay consistent with discipline and don’t let her wear you down
Watch super nanny, lol.
She could be acting out because she is Jealous Of the baby? Stay Positive ! I know it’s not easy but things will all work out!!
I didnt want to spank either. . But it was the only thing that worked…
Everyone always gives advice on breaking the will of a strong willed child - but it’s such a gift.
That strong willed child won’t give in to peer pressure as a teen and will always follow their own drum. My sister was a very strong willed child. She grew up to become a lawyer who owns a homestead and has 6 kids. She’s amazing. My teen daughter was always so strong willed (still is). She doesn’t give in to her peers and is a really level headed kid. This year, as a senior, she has one advanced placement class at the high school and three college courses. Next year, she goes to college and will be studying criminology and forensic sciences.
We were just very consistent. When she misbehaved, she was put in our time out spot - which was always somewhere near us but somewhere she couldn’t see what was going on with everyone in the home. And we gave her as many areas possible of personal control. She chose her own clothes from a very young age. She was allowed to decorate her room. When her brother was born, she helped pick his name.
Belts on the ass work wonders
My son gets a talk and a good old spanking and after he has had time to calm down we talk again.
The spectrum is a very very big space. Get her evaluated and go from there. You never know.
Has this just started since the baby came or when you were pregnant? The attitude probably started when she realized she was going to share your attention and then got progressively worse as she sees you being nice to the baby and yelling at her all day. (No judgement here. I have a 4 year old and they are naturally hard headed at this age.) make time for just you and her without the baby. Even if it’s just a couple minutes to snuggle on the couch. When she does something good praise her. When she does something that makes you want to scream act disappointed more than angry. Also, don’t give in. I know this is extremely hard, especially if you’re exhausted. But if a kid knows there is a point that you will give in, they won’t give up till you got it and they get what they want. Good luck Mom!!
Have her act like a “big girl” and help you with the baby. Let her help you change baby’s diaper and clothes. When she acts out, try to redirect her to a positive mentality. Include her in your daily activities to keep her mind happy any busy
4 is a hard age! It starts getting better by about 5 1/2 as long as you stay consistent.